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The most common questions

Tue, 24 Jan 2012 13:51:49 +1100

I was recently asked: "What are the most common questions" that come in.

There are probably two that stand out. Firstly, the biggest: "Are they okay"

The second most common: "Where are they now?"

To the first, please be assured that they are most definitely okay. Even when someone submits a general question, although I'm not doing readings at the moment, I can't help but get a glimpse, snippet, of who they're talking about when they ask their question. I feel the longing, the emotion. Above all, they want you to know that they are safe, in no harm. Whatever has happened during their passing to the other side, they are fine now, and beyond the pain or grief.

As to where they are now, I wrote an article a few years back called "Heaven is Beside You". I believe, strongly, that they don't "go away", despite all the hype and such made in films. It may make good drama, but it's wrong. Emotionally, or scientifically, it's wrong. For a moment, think scientifically. Take a lump of wood. Burn it. What do you get? A massive release of energy. Flame. Light, Heat, Ash, not to mention the unseen vapours. Where is it now? It's part of the energy all around you. Energy can't disappear. They've proven that long ago. It doesn't disappear into the clouds. Or, morph into another unseen world. The energy, the atoms, the molecules are still here, still part of our system, whatever that is, and remains so. So too, in a spiritual sense, those who have passed become part of the energy. Still around. Not all the time, perhaps not at all sometime. But always connected to us by a thread of atoms. And for reasons I don't quite understand, KNOW when we want them to be around.

So, your loved ones are okay, safe and well. They're beside you, whenever you need them, or when they know they need to be.

Take Care, Phil G

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Re-learning how to connect. My own personal experience from my Brother

Sun, 02 Oct 2011 09:56:40 +1100

THANKS to all for your patience, and well wishes.

My brother's passing was unexpected, and not in the best circumstances, so it has been time consuming to take care of everything.

I'm almost back to normal, so if you wish to log questions or requests, feel free to do so, and I should be able to catch up shortly.

In case you're interested, i did learn, or perhaps the word is, have reinforced, the need to be patient with developing your own connections to those who have passed. My brother did not come through to me, which was, to be honest, upsetting. I had the same questions I receive from many of you - why? But I remained relaxed, and patient, and just let things unravel in good time.

I wasn't sure if I got anything from him on a number of occasions, so I asked for confirmation as I suggest throughout the website, CD and books. Each verification I got, did not work. Finally, I stopped trying altogether, and then, out of the blue, he came to me.

I was thinking of what music to have in the service, and could not think of anything - our tastes were dramatically different. Then a song, from when I was a kid, popped into my head. We ended up not using it, but the song is significant, because it's one of the few that we both liked, and there was a running joke about the drums "wrecking his speakers" - just a silly thing, but something I had forgotten (the first part of my verification technique). I still wasn't convinced, so I asked for something I don't know. I saw the record label, and heard the word "green" in my head. Why green? Seriously, what record company from the vinyl days had green - and I head it was an awful green colour - and then - it wasn't a normal record company.

i had to search the internet for images of the vinyl record, and came across it - it was a horrible olive green colour (which I had never really noticed before), and the company was Warner Brothers - which mainly does movies, not records. After that, there was a flood of information that came through, lots of it making sense, and I was left in no doubt he was with me (and still is).

I hope that experience helps some of you reading this.

Last night, I watched a movie called "HereAfter" - directed by Clint Eastwood and starring Matt Damon. If you're interested in how I get my messages, it's the ONLY TV/Movie I've ever seen which almost exactly matches what I get - I was so excited!!! And, like the movie, I so feel I should do more readings to help people but it's just something I struggle to find the time for, and feel bad about charging for it, so it's easier to not do them. I hope you understand.

Importantly, I have always felt my purpose with this 'gift' - is to share how ordinary people can connect, without the help of a psychic.

Take Care, Phil G

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My Brother's Passing.

Sat, 17 Sep 2011 14:02:28 +1000

I may take a little while to get back to people as my brother passed away suddenly, unexpected.

I receive questions from time to time from people who have trouble contacting a passed loved-one. I usually say to be patient. Either you are having trouble hearing them, or they are having trouble connecting with you.

So to let you know that I'm nothing special, I share my accidental discovery humbly, hoping it helps. In this particular case, my brother's passing came as a shock in every sense. But more so, for me, because I usually have some warning, some feeling. In this case, I did not. And over the last couple of days, despite being able to contact others, including my Father in the first few days or weeks, I don't feel connected to my brother, and I have not recieved the signs I tell people to look for, to verify it.

I don't know why. Time will tell, and perhaps I will learn something from this to share with others.

I will be tied-up for about 2 weeks as there are many arrangements to be made, due to the circumstances. I will commence replying to all those who have made requests, as soon as possible.

Thank you. Phil

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"Soul Matters" book now available as down-load

Sat, 27 Aug 2011 13:14:45 +1000

Following many requests to purchase "Soul Matters" as a kindle/Amazon/iPad download, we're please to announce a Kindle version of this book is now available for purchase on-line. Click here for "Soul Matters" electronic book

This is my first book, which details the accidental discovery, how I dealt with the unwelcome new talent!, and what I learned along the way above life, death, and our ability to reconnect with passed loved ones. I really hope this new offering will help even more people, especially at the lower pricing.

All the best, Phil

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It has literally saved my life. Thank you!

Thu, 25 Aug 2011 10:29:10 +1000

From time to time, I receive really lovely emails, which I don't share a lot, because I personally don't trust all the "I love this product" type endorsments on websites!!! But this lovely one I though may help you believe that ordinary everyday people can have success with my simple technique for connecting with loved ones. I share it to encourage those who aren't sure, to give it a go.

"I read your book and listened to your CD, and the response has been INCREDIBLE!

I now have an ongoing communication line.

It has literally saved my life. Thank you! Thank you!

I have even told many of my friends about your book and CD. We had a little session where we watched you on your youtube and people were just blown away!

You have NO IDEA HOW MUCH YOU HAVE HELPED TO EASE THE PAIN of SO many people! Thank YOU for sharing your gift with the world!"

Karla, Michigan. Reprinted by permission.

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Fear of Death

Thu, 25 Aug 2011 10:16:26 +1000

From Australia, I've received an interesting question, the answer I feel may be of interest to others. She asks firstly about readings, but then describes a sudden strong awareness of her mother, but in her head. She also fears death.

I hope the answer helps others:

Thanks for writing. You've raise a few things, so I'd like to answer them separately for you.

Firstly, I have done an awful lot of readings over the last few years, but stopped about a year ago - for a few reasons. Firstly, time. I was getting more requests than I could handle, and couldn't work out a fair way of dealing with it. Secondly, I started helping in my sons businesses as well as working, and just couldn't spare the time. But mostly because I started sharing my experiences initially to help people have their own connections, and doing readings just gave people a short-term fix. It was either never enough, or, as you say, not accurate enough for some people, which annoyed them, and made me feel awful. I found that everyone seems to have a different expectation of what comes through, and I've learned that there's a big variation in how different mediums share information. It's totally not an exact science like playing a guitar. It's very much like a singer - very few sound the same, and what someone loves, the next person can't stand. So for all those reasons, I no longer do readings.

However, I continue to help people have their own experiences. And I find the majority achieve at least some level of connection. I would have received thousands of thank-you emails over the last few years from people who have successfully connected, and verified it, compared to, perhaps 20 people I can think of who haven't had success. So I'm comfortable my simple technique is easy enough for most to do, and verify.

You mention that you saw your mother 'in your head' and not outside. Certainly I have met all sorts of people, who have had a wide range of experiences. Absolutely most I know have the experience 'inside' their head - either as vision, sounds, or feelings. It's quite rare in my experience to 'see' someone outside of you - some do, but not a lot, and not often.

I believe that's because they, the energy or however you wish to think of it, can place their thougths and images quite easily in your mind, much easier than presenting an object in front of you.

Noises, load and sharp, aren't all that common, but they do happen. I personally had this experience, which I talk about in my book "Soul matters". Initially, back in 2003, I thought I was going insane, and tried hard NOT to accept what I was able to do. I forget the exact circumstances now, but I had to warn a work colleague about a danger with her car, and ignored the 'request'. As I walked into the shopping centre where I worked then, (it was absolutely empty, about an hour before the shops opened) I heard, loudly, very clearly, my name being shouted out. Stunned me! I stopped and looked around, and there was no one around, except in the distance, the newsagent, who was going about his business and not looking at me. It happened again, and with it came a strong feeling I had to do as I was told!

So in your instance, I'm having a guess that you haven't heard your Mum, or, more likely, the readings you've had may have had snippets come through that are relevant, but there's too many other distractors that made you think the whole experience wasn't genuine. (Whilst I know many 'readings' can be totally fake, I have met many who genuinely try, and get some things right, and some things wrong, which leaves the client feeling let down). So, in those circumstances, your Mum basically grabs you by the neck and shakes you!! Which worked.

I find if you get closer to understanding how all this works, your fear of death disappears. I know absolutely, we're on a round-about of life, and what we have now is just one part of a much bigger experience. Kind of like ants in the backyard, thinking that's all that's out there, when we know it's only a fraction of what exists. For what it's worth, I know of a few grief counsellors who have promoted my book, so although I didn't write it for that reason, it seems to help people who are grieving, and scared of death.

I would like you to try, if you haven't already, the 'coffee time' video on the website. It's free, and a good starting point. The cd and book are there if you want them later, but start there. It's not that hard to do. You just need a starting point, be open-minded, not too critical. Relax, don't have any preconceived ideas of what to expect, and let it happen. Pretend you're searching for gold in the dirt, but you don't care if you find any. You'll just do it anyway. If you do that, you'll stumble on it.

I hope that helps. Let me know how you get on.

Take care, Phil.

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"Tried your method - it worked first time!!

Sun, 24 Jul 2011 16:26:59 +1000

It's been a while since I've posted anything here. Thanks for all the positive feedback and comments, and also those who have ordered things.

Not everyone finds success with my simple method of contact, but most do. If I can encourage those who miss a loved one with this comment I received recently from Tom:

Hi Phil, I've received my order, thank you. I already tried it and it worked, I had a short contact. Some questions : The contact was really short, just one sign in a split of a second, how can I prolong the contact? I have a feeling that building up an emotional link is critical to have a good connection. The more time and the more you share deep emotional things, the clearer you "feel" the contact. What is your experience with that? I would like to practice your method, how frequent may I use it? More than once a day, once a day, once a week, ....? I just don't want to disturb our loved one's in their work over there ;)

The answers are generally posted throughout this blog and in my articles, but to summarise my answer to Tom: The prolonging just comes naturally, as it becomes easier. I find it's not so much our ability or otherwise to contact, rather our ability to be aware of the contact. The more you do this, the more you become aware of the signs, and stop questioning, or trying to 'prove' it, and you just begin to know the difference.

The emotional link. Yes certainly. And that's why I suggest the 'coffee time' on the coffee time video - because it's a normal thing where you talk things over, in the physical world, and some of that would naturally be emotional, if you've lost someone and are missing them. It's a very effective method of building a link to loved ones in the Afterlife. And lastly, how often? No problems. There's not always there, but they can be in a blink. They don't mind, and as I explained to Tom, I've only once had a feeling 'they' were busy - when my Father-in-Law was taking care of his son who was passing over. so, go ahead, and "make their day" - seriously, they think it's great when you try this, and are more happy than you are when you feel them or hear them. it's like a big cheer goes up on the other side!!!

Lastly, thanks for everyone understanding the delay in answering your questions. life really is quite a busy experience for me, but I'm enjoying it. I'm glad to see heaps of people have been downloading the CD which is great. I've been asked if the book in on-line, or in shops. Unfortunately not. I'll look into to it, but there's a bit of investment in getting it on-line, and getting it through an agent is a challenge, with too many trying to rip off would-be authors. I've priced the combined CD and book pretty reasonable to make up for the fact the books not as a download.

And a big thank you to professional people who have been referring clients to my web-site. I'm glad I've been of some help.

Take care, Phil.

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Can ANYONE connect with family in the Afterlife?

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:33:04 +1000

I've had a few enquiries recently from people who have tried to contact family or friends in the Afterlife, and don't feel they've been successful. So the question here is - can anyone do this?

I still firmly believe anyone can, but I have found a very small handful of people who don't seem to be able to. From both what I believe, and also from what I've read over the last couple of years, there are two elements to contacting family in the Afterlife.

Firstly, there is the ability of the person to come through. I don't do readings anymore as I don't have the time, but when I did, there have been some where I just can't connect. Some come through easily, others seem to struggle. I don't necessarily think it's because they don't want to. It's more a case of, they can't.

In this instance, can I ask you to think of the character played by Patrick Swayze in "Ghost", where he wants to come through to Demi Moore's character, but can't - he doesn't know how to. Although it's just a film, I think it does explain this quite well. Not everyone 'over there' can come through easily. If you care to read about it, there's lots of complicated reading explaining the vibrations, and they have to 'come down to our level', and then we need to relax, and 'vibrate up at their level' and so on. I'm not big on over complicating things, but I can understand what they're saying. As you do this, you do feel that you go to a different energy level, or place, than what you are when you're going about your day.

The other aspect is our ability to connect, hear, see, feel, recognize. That's the part I've tried to share over the last few years. The only advice, if you're having trouble, is to be relaxed, and let it happen. But recently, I've suggested to a couple of people to try connecting with someone else they know, who has passed away - if they are having trouble connecting with you, then perhaps by trying someone else, you'll start to feel something, some small connection, and can build from that.

My son is very interested in all things unexplained, and has recently looked on the internet regarding the mind, the psychic, and our interconnection at a sub-atomic level. He talked recently to me about having to relax in order to have an out of body experience. I've done this a few times. The first time is terrifying! Then you gradually realise nothing bad will happen. He was talking about this, and the need to 'let go' on faith. He recently had such an enounter, during a dream, but what he saw and felt he later confirmed when he woke up as being very real indeed - what he saw happening, happened. But even in his dream, he was quite scared to start with. He has since done more, and commented to me that once you let go, it's not that hard. The hardest bit is believing, and trusting.

So I think that applies very much to this. You need to trust, let go, have faith, be relaxed, imagine you're not part of the world around you, and it's in this environment that you can, if you wish, contact those in the Afterlife, even if, at times, you can't contact the person you really want.

Finally, if anyone's waiting for a reply from me, please be patient, as I have very limited time these days to attend to enquiries. I usually try to catch a day here and there, and spend most of the day catching up!!! So if it's a few weeks, plase forgive me.

Take care, Phil.

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Why has her life ended when so many needed and loved her?

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:33:24 +1000

In New Zealand, there has been a large earthquake, with many trapped and expected not to survive. I was thinking of posting something to help those grieving, when I got an email from a lady [Missoula, USA] who lost a friend in a car accident, who was loved by everyone, and needed. She asks 'why did she die? She had her whole life ahead of her, it just doesn't make sense?"

I don't quite understand the answer to this question myself. It does seem so wrong sometimes. I live in Australia, and we're hearing a lot about the Christchurch earthquake in New Zealand, which is equally distressing, and seems so unfair on those trapped.

Can I answer in a general sense, my understanding, and hope that it helps. I know when I look at individual cases, as in, when I've done readings, during the reading, things make sense. For example, someone dies but as a result of the mouring and coming together of families, two people who would never have met, grew to like each other, and although it wasn't a replacement, it was "like it was meant to be", yet each could retain their original love for the persons who died.

I did a reading for a girl whose parents died in an accident together, but during the reading, she only mentioned her mother. I brought up that they must have been a very close couple, and I felt that her father had died almost at the same time, but just after, to be with her - and she then told me that he died on the way to the hospital, and was in the same accident, and they always did everything together.

Can I broaden my answer to things in general in life. I firmly believe we have more than one experience at life as we know it. I don't think everything is planned out. I don't think decisions are made on our behalf by some mystical being or force, about how and when our life ends. I believe we are here to experience life, it's joys and sorrows, to make mistakes and learn. Within that, I do feel those on the other side can see how life will pan out, if we don't change, and try to warn us, but sometimes we just don't hear them (in our subconscious). In those circumstances, they try to comfort and help those left behind to cope, grow, and overcome greif to move on. They try to help us make the best of the situation.

So, in answer to your question, it does seem so tragic and unnecessary that she should be taken from her family. But to my thinking, it's not necessarily 'meant to be' as many say. Rather, this is what's happened, despite how unfair it seems, and now she, in 'Heaven', will do all she can to help them manage and cope and grow. I am certain she would be most concerned for her children, that they manage, and don't grow up with an enormous 'grude' against everyone for how unfair life is. I know part of overcoming that is to begin to understand she is still around in spirit, and they will in time be able to recoginze it.

I'm positive it's situations like this that the poem "Don't Grieve" came to me a few years back. I know it has helped many thousands, without being confronting to anyone who may not share my beliefs about the afterlife. Can I suggest you mention it to them, or send a link to them (or print the page and post it). I think it would help them, and you, and in this particular case, the answer to your question may gradually dawn on you, even if it takes some years to look back and understand.

I hope this helps you a little

Phil

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Mail overload!!

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:33:36 +1000

Just letting you know that I've been somewhat swamped with emails and things lately, so it make take me a while to back to you all. Appreciate your patience. Readings? Sorry - I've had to stop taking requests. The queue is rediculously long, and totally unmanagable. But thanks for the support.

Take care, Phil

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Coping with Suicide fears after loss of Loved One.

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:33:45 +1000

I have had several enquiries from people concerned with thoughts of suicide following the loss of someone dear.

Firstly, I'm not a councillor or anything like that, so if you are feeling unstable in any way, please seek out professional people that can help you with that.

I can only speak from my understanding of life as I am aware of it, and from this perspective, I know if anyone ends things unnecessarily, there is a strong feeling of regret afterwards. When I 'talk' to these people (in the Afterlife), there is an extremely strong divide between the perception of things as they are 'now', and the perception of things after death, if brought about untimely.

Those who commit suicide, and speak to me from the Afterlife, speak to me of, prior to death, having a totally one-sided view of all things. Everything, regardless of how good or bad life seems, of how loved or unloved they feel, or are, everything in these people's minds is concerned with how they feel. These people, after having ended things, usually after about 4-5 months, become aware of a higher purpose, of how everything fits in together, and are filled with remorse, because now they understand how others feel, and how their action causes far more grief than what they felt, themselves, prior.

I'm not trying to 'preach' to you, just simply share what I have received many times, from people who have committed suicide, that have come through to me. I understand the difficulty of losing a loved one, but coping by suicide is not the answer. There is a book (novel) my wife read some years back, and has pestered me to read it ever since. We came across it on the internet recently, and purchased it. I have since read it, and it is a fascinating look at life, and our purpose. Although it's just a fiction book, it does change your view of life, and I think it would help people in this situation see a higher purpose. It's called "Ferny" by James Long, published under ISBN 978-0-7515-3885-4. I found it on amazon, but I'm sure normal book stores could get it in for you.

Take care, Phil

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Share your experiences to help others

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:33:55 +1000

I have one lady in particular that is having trouble with her connection to a passed loved one. I'm wondering if anyone who initially wasn't able to connect, that now can, would like to share how they got over that first hurdle.

Although I share a lot of my experiences, and advice based on those I have helped, occasionally I strike someone who struggles with the concept of connecting with a passed loved one. I feel particularly sorry for this lady who so misses her Mother. From what she writes, I know she's getting snippets of contact, but always the problem seems to be that some want more than they are able to recognize.

If anyone would like to share how they discovered how to recognize the signs of contact, I'd be more than happy to share it on this blog to help others (and I'd also share it with the lady concerned). If you'd like to share your experiences of discovery, please use the ask page, and I'll paste relevant pieces here.

Wishing you all the best for the festive season, and the new year.

Phil

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Please be patient...

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:34:05 +1000

Just a quick update to ask everyone who's sent in questions or made 'reading' requests, to be patient.

Like is quite hectic at the moment, with work committments and also working on a number of large projects helping my son with Video/Audio work. I will get back to everyone as soon as I can, but in the meantime, read through my articles to help you with your connections.

Phil

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If you want further help...

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:34:15 +1000

When someone purchases from the on-line shop page, I always remind them to ask for any further clarification, if needed, after using the Books or CD. But as many people purchase from download sites, I don't get the opportunity to make that invitation.

So if you've purchased from iTunes, or other music sites, or downloaded my books from Lulu, and you have further questions after using the material, please just use the free question link, let me know what item you've purchased, and what you'd like to know.

Also, had a few enquiries lately about my 'Career Shortcuts' book. Briefly, I have been in management all my working life, and trained many people from job interview techniques right through to getting into management, and all that entails, from standing-out, to being organized, to handling other people wisely. It's all in the book "Career Shortcuts" and I had comments back about how it's easy to read, and helpful. So if you know someone who's looking for a job, or wanting to get a better job, i think you can safely recommend them to take a look. "Lulu" has a preview of the book.

As for any emails coming in, I've been swamped lately, so please be patient as I work my way through them.

Take care,

Phil

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How do I contact my Father?

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:34:24 +1000

A typical question I get comes from England: "I am a very spiritual person anyway and am desperate to try and make contact with him. Can you give me some advice on the best way of doing this please?"

If you have a look through the website and articles, you'll see that I was not pyschic, before 2002. I accidentally discovered how to do this, and that's why I'm so adamant that ordinary people can contact their family and friends in the Afterlife. What I found the difficultity was, not so much how to do it, but how to recognize it.

So if you can start from a possibility that it's possible to contact, even for ordinary people. That opens up your mind, relaxes you. I know from emails I get from frustrated people who can't do this to start with, it's almost always because they're trying too hard, or expecting too much. Later, you get more, more easily, but to start with, it's simple steps. A little like blowing your first bubble of bubble-gum, or staying on a bike for the first time. It's not a huge experience, but for someone who's never done it before, even the smallest achievement is amazing, and from there, you can blow bubbles or ride your bike without thinking.

So that's the message I'd like to share with you more than anything. As for how, there's quite a bit on the website, and I can't really add too much to it. It's not hard. It's very simple, but to start with, perhaps not easy.

I put the "Coffee Time" video up on Youtube (there's a link on the website pages) to help people make the first initial contact, in a relaxed, simple way. If you haven't already tried this, have a look at the video. I've found a large number of people have found it helpful. Also have a look over the articles I've written (also linked on the web site). In essence, my simple idea is a simple statement: "Tell me something I don't know, or something I've forgotten", but the other information is simply to put it into context.

Later, if you want to think about it, my books, and especially the CD/download "Contacting the Afterlife" is designed to help, and I know the CD has helped many, but try the free information first. Just have a go. Believe he's around (he is), and believe he's hearing your thoughts when you "try" to be aware he's near. That's the first step. The rest isn't that hard. Let me know how you get on in a couple of months. Take care, Phil

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Telling a friend about Afterlife contact

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:34:34 +1000

I received an enquiry recently from a lovely young lady in Canada, who misses her Mum terribly, but wants most of all to know how to share what's she's discovered about Afterlife contact, with other family who are grieving the loss.

I share the story fully in my book "Soul Matters", but when I first realised anyone could contact family and friends who had passed away, I felt, and still do, the strong need to share this with others. My first stumbling steps was to put a couple of adverts in the paper, and then to offer to do meetings/readings, and later, through seminars and this website. I was initially concerned at what people would think. My wife in particular, was terrified the neighbours would think I was insane, and that's the reason I didn't put my last name anywhere to start with, just an initial.

I have talked with, personally, and online, many thousands of people over the past years about the fact theres IS an afterlife, and anyone can contact those in it. In all that time, I have only ever had one person who gave me a hard time, and that was only briefly because I didn't' try to force my opinion on them.

I've actually found things are quite the opposite of what I first expected. When you share your belief in the Afterlife, and mention that you 'think those who have died are still around' , and they sometimes, you think you get 'signs' - the conversation often turns quite positive. Usually, voices go a bit quieter, hushed tones, a bit of a glance to see who's looking, and then a sharing along the lines of:

"Funny you say that. I reckon there's something to all the psychic stuff.... " and then they tell you about their experiences, usually with a big question mark around it, along the lines of "do you think it's possible?"

So if you have family who are grieving the loss of a loved one, don't be too concerned. Just gently mention what you feel, or think about the Afterlife, and see how they react. If they respond favourably, then you can share more. I know from feedback that hundreds have used my poem "Don't grieve" (on the website) as a starting point for those who may not understand, but are open to knowing more, and often find much comfort in the words. You can print it out, and give it to them if you like.

If they are comfortable with this, then you may find it helpful to suggest my site, or any articles on the internet. They can search the term "Afterlife Phil G" and it will bring up thousands of references. I'm sure there are other sites also, but I'm just suggesting mine because I know it's gentle, non-provocative, and not too 'out there'!!

If they get to the stage of wanting to connect, I always recommend 2 main things. Firstly, the "Coffeetime" video on my website, and if they find that helpful, then the next stage is to think about the CD "Contacting the Afterlife".

So, my advice is to bring the subject up gently, and in most cases, you won't be thought of as weird or insane, but appreciated as trying to be helpful.

Take care, Phil G.

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Some can, some can't?

Mon, 11 Apr 2011 15:34:45 +1000

This week, I've received two opposing questions based on my CD "Contacting the Afterlife - A spoken beginners guide". One person replied, excited, that they got information straight away, the other has tried and failed. So I thought I would comment on this. The frequent question is "why can't I?" or "Can only some people contact the Afterlife?

I do believe everyone can connect with family and friends who have passed away. Having said that, I've come to understand that everyone is different, and different people get different things, in different ways, to varying extents. Firstly, if you've tried my simple method and it hasn't worked initially, don't give up, but change your perception of what to expect.

I find the most common cause of failure to connect is to expect something specific, or to expect too much. Throughout my articles, I stress the importance of letting go, and see what happens. From my own example, having no clue what to expect, I just accepted anything that happened as a start. In that regard, I had the advantage, because I didn't even know if it was real, possible, or imagined.

The signs you get can be in one or more of the following: a "feeling", a "thought", a "smell", a "touch", a song in your head for no reason, a voice, or the thoughts from a voice, and in rare instances, "seeing" something or someone. I find most people, especially when they first get something, tend to only get one of those signs, and tend to continue to only get the one type of sign for a while. The question is, which one? If you haven't tried this yet, then you're probably thinking: "what should I expect?" And that's great, because it's important not to expect ANYTHING specifically.

The two guides that will help you the most are the video and CD. The video is linked on the website ("Coffeetime") on YouTube. It talks you through a simple example that many people have found works well for them. The other is the Cd "Contacting the Afterlife" available as CD or download from numerous music sites (linked on the website), including iTunes. When you use the technique I talk about, it's important to remain open to anything. And then, don't dismiss simple things, often momentary flashes, here and gone in a second, and almost always within the first millisecond of your asking for something or saying 'hello'.

Another way I found helped a lot of people, is to build an emotional link. It's easy to do. If you've lost your Mum, Dad, Brother or Sister, Partner, or Friend, think of them. Sit quietly, breathe gently, deeply, slowly, and just think about them. After a while, change your thoughts to something that triggers an emotion. Perhaps remember a funny time, or a happy time with them. Or a sad time. Perhaps allow yourself to think of how you felt when you said your final goodbye. Anything that means something to you, on a deep personal emotional level.

This causes two distinct things to happen. YOU let go of your own thoughts and expectations, and instead concentrate on how you feel about them, being with them, missing them. It's hard to concentrate on trying to connect with the Afterlife if you're involved in strong emotions. Your conscious mind just lets go. The other thing is the person you're thinking about feels, hears, knows what you're thinking, remembering, saying. And they try harder to reach you, and find it easier to reach you while your conscious mind is letting go.

In this time, you will get something. It could be very brief. It could be a feeling, smell, touch, sound, thought, image. It is most likely illogical, not connected with what you're thinking about, and quite likely mean nothing to you. Hold that moment, and when you move out of that experience, think back to it. You will probably have a 'light-bulb moment' when you think "Oh, wow, that makes sense" or "I know what that's about", or "I'd forgotten all about that". Before you dismiss it as a coincidence, just thank them for being there.

And do the experience again, another time. The more you do this, the easier it becomes to recognise the signs of Afterlife contact. Just relax, take it slowly, don't expect too much or anything specific, and don't give up if it doesn't happen immediately.

Best wishes, Phil G

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Can you contact pets?

Sun, 08 Aug 2010 14:13:47 +1000

From time to time, I've had enquiries about whether pets are contactable.

short answer is 'yes'. I have covered this in a couple of articles previously, but just to assure you, pets do go to the same 'energy' place. For those who don't know my belief, it's quite simple: energy cannot be destroyed (a scientific fact). It merely changes from one form to another.

Our own energy, our soul, cannot be destroyed. It just changes, and I believe, into a state that we can't 'see and hear' in the traditional sense, but most definitely if you follow my advice, in a way you can recognise and verify.

I have from time to time done readings where various pets come through. One of my 'reading' videos has a bit in it about a dog. I find they come through as a 'feeling', and I 'feel' what they're trying to say, rather than hearing 'words'. I hope you understand what I mean. Pet lovers should, even from a physical sense - you can talk to a pet, and almost 'hear' them and what they're thinking. It's the same after they pass away. Use the same technique for pets. Just be patient.

Take care, Phil

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revised website for win7

Sun, 08 Aug 2010 14:07:27 +1000

Had a few people tell me there's a problem viewing the website on new Windows 7 computers, and iPhones.

We've just re-loaded the site in a Win-7 and iPhone friendly format. Hopefully everything works correctly, but if you notice any problems, let us know on the Ask link below.

Take care, Phil

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Winding down 'Readings'

Sat, 29 May 2010 14:16:57 +1000

Hi all.

Just to let you know, I've managed to worm my way out of doing a course for work, but they've finally caught up with me!!! It's a 2 year intensive training course, (compulsory) which requires a lot of study and assignments after hours, and that, combined with work, and assisting my son with his video business, means for the next couple of years, my time will be totally stretched to the limit.

So, in the next few days, I'll remove the option to have 'readings' done. I do enjoy these, but they are time-intensive, and I just can't fit it all in. I have previously written an article on "how to find a good psychic" which may help you.

I'll continue answering the free questions, and guiding those who purchase anything from the shop on understanding their own connection with loved ones in the afterlife, but just not do the readings for the time being.

Take care, Phil

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Guidance from 'my guys' Vs Fortune Telling...

Sun, 23 May 2010 15:14:39 +1000

Had quite a few reading requests which had a lot of 'guidance' questions.

Firstly, my view on fortune telling. Can some 'see' the future? Yes. I didn't believe so prior to my accidental experience in 2002, but since then, absolutely. BUT, and this is a BIG but - I do not believe the future is set in stone, and can be changed. I've done a couple of articles on this you can search on Goggle (if you or your friends want to read more about my ideas, just search the term 'afterlife Phil G' and you'll get tons of pages).

To tell the future, or fortune tell, only shows things as they will turn out based on current events. And events can change based on what you do. So rather than tell the future, I prefer to guide people to the best decisions that will help them. During a reading, this is often from the person that is requested to come through. But often, I get it from 'my guys' (I have about 5 different people in the Afterlife who guide me from time to time, or assist in 'readings'). I have used them extensively to help my son set up a strong business from nothing, just 12 months ago. I know it's not my advice, because it's detailed, in an industry I have no knowledge of, and often find myself saying things to him that I don't really understand, but make sense as I say them, to him.

So, here's an idea. If you want advice on something, and you'd like me to ask 'my guys' for the best advice for you (life decisions, career, love , etc.) then just use the Ask option for the moment. If you like the response, then use the donation link on the 'shop' page to make a donation of choice. I'll see the response, and if sufficient, I'll set up an option in the shop page.

As with my 'readings', follow-up advice, or information is always supplied if you wish, and any follow-up is done on the basis that you make a donation if you choose to do so. I'd rather people happy than just make a quick buck.

Cheers,

Phil

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This is how I experience Psychic contact - Perhaps you will too...

Sat, 22 May 2010 12:38:11 +1000

I just posted an article that may be of help to some - understanding the Psychic connection I have, may help you understand what YOU get.

The full article is here and I share my method. It's called 'overshadowing', and it took me ages to find anything that got close to what I receive (gentle feelings, messages, words etc, as if the person was 'part of' me for a while) which is quite different to most 'psychics' you read or hear about.

I have come to understand from feedback from people who have tried my simple technique, that many, if not most, who manage to get contact from family and friends who have passed away, tend to have similar experiences to me, and that's why I've written the article. So have a look if you'd like a closer understanding on my experience in connecting with those in the Afterlife.

Take care, Phil.

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I feel people touching me

Sun, 18 Apr 2010 10:39:17 +1000

I had an email recently from a lady who lost several family members, and sometimes feels people touching her.

Without repeating what is spread throughout my website, in my books, CD and articles, I have many people who write with something similar, and I always approach this with an open-mind, but not from a position of being gullible. I realise people can image things. Some are crazy!! Yes, I know that. But if you're reading this, chances are you're just an ordinary person, who's quite sane, and thinks you're going mad.

Don't. Follow the advice throughout my articles and website - and ask for confirmation. Without repeated that part, I would like to re-explain one part. You need to have an open mind. If you're closed - you won't give yourself, or them, to chance to connect. I watched a film last night, called "Haunted" with Kate Beckinsale. It's a bit of a weird film, and I don't suggest you'll learn anything from watching it, but in the film, the main character doesn't believe in psychics, despite having had personal experience, that he's dismissed as impossible. So from that veiwpoint, he ignores every sign. He's just trying to be 'scientific' and rational, but pushing aside a possibility goes beyond being rational - it simply blocks out the possibility all together.

Example: If you think everyone can see colours, the same way you do, and you strongly dispute anyone else when challenged by someone who just can't see red and green the way you do, you will never be in a position to understand, to learn, that there are people who can't see colours normally. History has numerous examples of that. Galileo. Einstein - Einstein was laughed at when first suggesting relativity, and the big bang, even 'black holes' in the universe - all things that, thanks to open minds, have been shown to exist or are highly likely.

Closing your mind to the possibility does NOT make you right. It just cuts you out of the picture. So, keep an open mind as you try my technique.

Publishers? I often get enquiries from people wanting to buy my books or CD in shops. Unfortunately, getting stuff through the system is not easy, as anyone who's tried will attest to. Everything is self-published, which saves the hassle of getting agents etc (not to say, stop getting ripped-off which has also happened), but the down side is it doesn't get distributed and you can only buy it on-line. Some "Book City" stores in Australia carry my first book, but that's it. So if you know someone who works in publishing, it would be great if my books and CD's could be published properly, and available in bookstores. In particular, most sales come from USA, Canada, UK, Australia, and lesser from Europe. Fingers crossed! They can just use the 'ask question' link below:

Take care, Phil.

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Murder investigations - Can psychics help?

Fri, 02 Apr 2010 09:38:33 +1100

Recently I was asked if psychics can really help in murder investigations, such as shown on TV shows.

I have watched a few 'investigative' TV shows, but I find them all terrible! I do believe it's possible, and I know many do (I don't know any personally, but I know of some that do help with investigations). The problem with TV shows is they have to 'rate' or they get chopped. And regardless of what actually happens, TV and Movies are all about giving the audience what they want, not necessarily what is real.

I also feel it's one of the reasons many don't believe they can contact 'passed' family themselves - they feel they need 'the gift' and even then, then feel they have to get copious amounts of vivid detail like in the TV shows. Very few get information like that, with that clarity, that quickly.

Personally, I have probably done hundreds of readings for people who wanted to know what happened in the final moments of a murder, or suspected foul play. I haven't done this for police investigations, just private people wanting to know. In case you're interested in this, to explain briefly, what I get is NOT a motion picture of the event being played out, but rather like a foggy view from within the person, looking through their eyes, and seeing or feeling the events happening to them. So, being pushed in front of a train came through as me describing being hit on my left shoulder and moving in front of a very heavy metal flat object that pushed me backwards violently, falling backwards to the ground, and 'going out' (dying). An axe murder came to me as an argument at the top of stairs, something very sharp hitting my head, and in pain, falling forwards and sliding down stairs. When queried as to why I didn't mention the caravan (apparently where the person was found) I said because it was over before then, but this person was telling me the axe head was all that remained in the fire (later I found out the caravan was set alight, and the axe head was inside).

I recently read a sad story about a young boy found dead, and I got a very firm glimpse of what happened, (accidental) and that a close family member tried to cover up, and would ultimately, but wrongly, be blamed. I felt the need to contact authorities on this occasion, but got no response, so I sent the details to a major newspaper asking it not to be published, but just forwarded to the relevant people. So far, as I got, the wrong person has been charged, but further investigations are continuing.

So if you have a situation you want explored, I am happy to do so in a reading - but bear in mind I see it from within, and don't always understand the bigger picture. I had a very frustrating one a couple of years ago in England where I am adamant of the detail, but it conflicts with the official report. I feel I am right, the client feels it doesn't gel. Unfortunately, I have to stick to my view, but all readings come with money-back guarantee.

Would I help authorities? Yes, I'm happy to. I want no publicity for it, and money is not an issue, so if anyone reading this is involved in investigations, I am open to helping if you feel it may help. It doesn't give facts, but it gives a picture you can investigate around.

I've also tried in vain, to get a few newspapers to carry a Q&A section on Afterlife, which I think would be of interest to people. Again, not wanting to make a big deal of it, but if you know anyone involved in the media, I'm open to helping.

Thanks for the heaps of compliments and donations lately. Glad I've been able to help so many. Take care. Phil G

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Phil's background

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 08:49:02 +1100

I've been asked to share a little about me, so here goes. Apart from the obvious spiritual information and accidental discovery, I'm married (had our 30th anniversary in January this year), with one amazing son who's just left high school and running a really successful video production business (he hopes to direct movies one day, and has already won a few short film awards). We have two dogs, one's a 12 year old sausage dog, and the other we saved from the pound, looks a little mangy but my wife loves him!

I grew up in Sydney, Australia, and have been in management pretty much all my life. Moved to Melbourne, Australia, to be with my (now) wife. I used to write songs and hoped one day to be a big star! But that didn't happen. (Although it did lead me to my wife, so that was worthwhile). I originally wanted to become a minister with the Uniting Church (used to be Methodist), but something inside me led me to feel there was more, and more explanation, than what I was hearing in the initial stages of teaching. Perhaps it was a prelude of things to come.

I still work, as a part-time manager. I'd love to do spiritual work full-time, but the dollars just don't add up. I genuinely have spent far more than I've made promoting my simple technique. I made a committment to 'my guys' that I'd keep spending a small amount each week (advertising) regardless of whether I made money or not, and that's what I still do.

I do receive a lot of complimentary feedback about the site, my method, and my books and CD. I deliberately don't put lots of testimonial bits on the web site. I know other places do lots of that, but I'm just not that, well, I just don't believe in blowing my own trumpet that much. If I can just indulge a little though. I had this lovely email a few days ago about my book, which I'll share with you, in case you're thinking of buying it:

"Phil, Thank you, I am excited to get the book and cd... I am reading "Soul Matters" now; and I absolutely love it. Its an easy read and so easy to understand. I had to get it away from my husband first though! He picked it up and I thought I'd never get it back!! He said it grabs you right off the bat. He was right. Thank you again." [M. Spokane USA]

So there you go. I really enjoy helping from people. Whether it's about spiritual contact and comforting the grieving, or helping people with their careers, or more recently, offering words of encouragement, I really enjoy it. Take care, Phil G.

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CD's back in stock

Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:12:20 +1100

The CD "Contacting the Afterlife" is back in stock again. We've ordered stacks this time, so we shouldn't run our for a while. Also, we've now added iTunes UK, so it's available on many download music sites. To help you find it, just search "Afterlife Phil G" on music sites.

Also, had some queries about how to find the site easily, when sharing with friends. We don't quite understand why, but about 12 months ago, Goggle starting give top spot to the term "Afterlife" and "Phil G" , so that's why we've included that phrase. So if you tell friends to search that term (Afterlife Phil G), they'll find thousands of references to the site, articles and comments, that will hopefully help and comfort those grieving the loss of a loved one.

-Phil

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Message for Haiti

Sat, 20 Feb 2010 16:03:39 +1100

Had an email today from the UK, someone telling me that apparently they HAVE just re-done Michael Jackson's "We are the World" song for Haiti. Thanks for sharing that. I don't really follow the lives of the rich and famous, so I tend not to be aware of some of these things.

For those who are interested the article on Michael Jackson is here , published early January 2010, and in it, he shares (during a 'coversation' I had with him early January, 2010) his wish that the song could be re-used today. So I was delighted to hear he's got his wish!! -Phil

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Hearing a voice in a teddy...

Wed, 03 Feb 2010 20:05:25 +1100

I wanted to share a question from D. [UK] that I thought might help people: "My mum passed recently.... there was a teddy in the room where she died, and it told me something... not verbally, but mentally... that I should do for my Mum. Do you have other people experiencing things like that?"

Thanks for your message. Firstly, don't feel silly, as I'm sure you may have. I can't say I've actually heard what you describe has happened to anyone, but the situation is quite common. I describe it as 'having a reference point' (take a look at the YouTube video "CoffeeTime" on the website) - the reference point is for OUR benefit, not theirs. so in your case, the teddy must have been important enough, and you could imagine her connected to it, for you to hear HER voice in your head.

For privacy, I'll leave out detail, but I shared there would have been a strong reason, in her circumstances, for that to happen, and for her to come through.

Can I suggest two things. Firstly, I think older people would like to be remembered when they were younger, fitter. Find a photo of them, younger and remembered them like that. Secondly, read through my notes, articles on a 'reference point'. It's common with gravesites or crosses placed at roadside accidents. Or if a candle flickers, or something along those lines. These things happen so we have something to 'mentally' hang onto. But they can be anywhere.

If you know someone who's missing a loved one, the poem "Don't Grieve" has been a simple way to share this loving message with others, without causing offence. I have had large numbers of emails from people who were directed to that page, or given a printout of it, and thanked me for it's simple message. I'm not aware of anyone taking offence at it.

And for those wanting to progress from the odd 'thought' based around a certain object (such as the teddy bear), think about the "Contacting the Afterlife" CD or download. Take care. Phil G

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Career book...

Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:06:06 +1100

I've received a few queries about my career book lately. Just a quick post to share my background:

Before my 'psychic' life, I had a very full management career, working for several companies, in various roles. Much of that time involved screening, hiring and training staff, and developing many of those into management. My style of teaching was somewhat different. I have attended several management training programs (company paid), and read dozens of books on getting ahead. I found so much of it was full of big words, theories and ideas. I developed my ideas into simple steps, that could quickly be learned, and put into practice. Everything from how to get a job for school leavers, through to standing out from the crowd to gain pay rises and promotions and move into management.

I've finally put all this in a book, called "Career Shortcuts". At 175 pages, it's not a long read, but it's packed with information. I've had some good feedback so far, so if you know anyone wanting to get a job, or advance their career, could you do them a favour and mention the book. I'm trying to get it published generally, but that's a long-winded exercise. It's available as a self-publication on the shop page if anyone's interest, and I reckon the benefit in pay will easily justify the small price for the book.

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I know I've been visited by my husband...

Sun, 31 Jan 2010 14:08:38 +1100

I received an interesting enquiry from J, [USA] which I have gained permission to share with you. I feel it may help others understand how simple the connection with loved ones in the afterlife is.

"My husband passed away last year. Before he died, he promised to let me know he is alright. We both believed in the Afterlife. After his death, I was in my bedroom, lying on the bed, missing him terribly. Suddenly, I had to look in the doorway, and I could see him, like Patrick appeared at the end of the movie "Ghost" - not a lot of color, white..... This went on for several minutes, I heard him say "I love you", but didn't see him say it. .... Other things have happened since.....I feel a hand on my back, very lightly, like a feather. I believe he is close by. Will I see him again? I talk to him the way Phil G says. I hear responses. But I want to see him again..."

I wanted to share this for a few reasons. Firstly, it is so much easier to feel the connection if you believe it's possible. You don't have to be gullible, or stupid, or naive. There's lots of details on my website to verify these things really happen, but if you're constantly wanting proof, they get tired and annoyed at that game. Believe it's possible makes it so much easier.

Secondly, different people feel the connection in different ways. Some people SEE the image, others FEEL it. Others just hear the VOICE in their minds. J makes the comment she heard his voice but didn't see him say it. I explained to her, and want to share with you also, that I believe the image, when we see it, is not actually where they are, but they are projecting it in our minds. That's why you didn't see him say the words, yet you 'felt' or 'heard' the words in your mind.

Let me explain. If you can, walk around outside for a few moments, then go back inside, and go into a very dark place, such as a broom cupboard, shut the door so it's completely dark. You SEE something. But it's not really there, because it's completely dard. It's your eyes, your mind, interpreting what you've seen, and recreating a picture your mind THINKS is there. That's how I believe it is.

For example, I did a reading some time back, in a house with an extremely large dining area which was part of the kitchen. The lady I was helping was sitting in a seat on the far right of me. I was on a seat in the middle of one of the walls, and to my far left was a single seat. The distance between these three seats was around 3 metres from me, and around 5-6 metres between the lady, and the empty seat opposite her. As I spoke, I was unaware that I kept looking briefly at the empty chair. Towards the end, the lady had a smile on her face, and said to me: "Do you mind if I ask why you keep looking at the empty chair when you talk about my mother?" I laughed, explained I didn't realise I was, but I just popped out the answer: "I feel that's where she is".

She smiled, saying that's where her Mum used to sit. I asked why they sat so far apart, and she said that's just the way it was. Now, I don't really feel that's where she WAS, but she placed the image of her, in my mind, in that chair for her daughter's benefit - so she knew. I tell you this, because I often have emails from people expecting someone to be in the same place each time. A common example is when people go to a gravesite, feel or 'see' the image of a loved one, and think they have to go back there all the time to see or feel them. You don't. They just do that because it's what YOU can accept at the time. But they can be anywhere.

The third thing I want to explain, is that so often, once you are aware of the connection, the initial method seems to disappear. I've shared examples of this before, but, for example, you think of a loved one, and a candle blows out, so you only accept that as a sign, and get upset because the candle doesn't blow out again. Once they have your attention, accept it. Prove it the way I say (it's in my articles, on the website, in my YouTube videos and in my books and CD - 'Goggle' "Afterlife Phil G" to find stuff), and accept they're with you.

It doesn't take long to know when they're around. It feels different. Once you do this a few times, you know the difference. If you want help doing this, the quickest way is to use my CD, available on the shop page as CD, or download from iTunes and heaps of other music sites.

Cheers,

Phil G

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Can famous people in the Afterlife contact ordinary people?

Mon, 25 Jan 2010 14:24:29 +1100

Since starting to post some of the 'conversations' I've had with famous people, I've had a number of enquiries from people who thought they were going crazy, thinking someone famous had contact them.

I've answered each one individually, as I understand this is not something most people would be comfortable with sharing on my website. However, it is common enough that I felt the need to address it here, for the undoubted larger number of people who have had these experiences, and may not wish to say so.

If I can advise from my own perspective. If you read through my site, I don't believe I had a psychic ability, or knowledge of it, prior to 2002. The whole process was an accident. One that I've come to realise is of enormous benefit to people: Experts can't easily understand how to convey the process, in SMIPLE terms, and tend to complicate it was too much for everyday people. Plus, I have found, there's a huge number of ordinary people, who aren't whackos, who want, or suspect a loved one is around, from time to time, and want to understand, in simple terms, how to know.

In my case, I had a number of visits from famous people early on (2002-2003). I can't tell you how insane my wife thought I was!!! But my method of verifying it is the same I teach everyone, for any visit. You ask for something you don't know, or something you've forgotten. I talk about this in the website, and in great detail in my books and CD, so I won't bore you with it here.

The difference between a family member, a someone famous, is I'd suggest you ONLY ask for something you don't know. In the same way I share how to recognise the brief images, feelings, words etc, you do the same thing. Often, you'll feel or glimpse an image, momentarily, that may appear to be unrelated to the person you feel you're talking to. Trust it, and check it later.

Can you ask for who you want? I think so. I do personally. I haven't had any readers say they have, but I would presume you can ask, as long as it not to be annoying! Mostly, it's a feeling someone's there, and often coupled with an understanding of who it is. For example, a famous singer may present with an image of a song in your mind. Just take it to the next step and ask for something to confirm it. Once you get that, go on the internet, and find that piece of information. If you can match it, without previously having known about it, then that's your proof that the rest of the encounter was real.

Phil G.

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Can Dogs Communicate After Death?

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:40:29 +1100

A question from England: Could you please tell me wether dogs are able to communicate after death? I had my dog put to sleep and am grieving terribly.

Yes, they are. I know that might sound strange, and I haven't read much about it, other than apparently there are 'pet psychics' although I don't think there's any particular extra talent involved.

Can I just briefly give you some background so you understand why I say this, and not just give you a simple answer. If you've looked over the website, you'll know I only started getting this around 2002, and only helped others after 2005. A couple of years ago, I was doing a reading for someone, which wasn't going too well, when the reason became obvious. This person didn't care who came through and was rather disinterested. All of a sudden, I felt a sharp pain in my side, and I felt like I had to roll onto the floor. I also felt like I couldn't 'talk' properly. It was a very odd feeling. I asked this person if he knew anyone who had been shot. He didn't. Then I started to get a repeat of the action (over and over), but it didn't feel like I was standing up. It felt like I was on all 4's, then fell over. As soon as I said this, he looked totally stunned. His dog when missing about a year earlier, and they never found it. The neighbour didn't like the dog, and they always though he cold have shot the dog (it was a farm community). As soon as he told me this, it all made sense.

I've since had things come through. My own dogs have shown themselves a few times - not in quite so obvious a way, but things like, one who died almost 20 years ago, we still from time to time find an odd 'hair' from her - she had a very distinctive, very unusual white long hair that went to half thickness half way along the strand of hair - we find them, probably every couple of years, in odd places.

I haven't actually done this personally the way I'm going to describe, but I'm sure it will work. Occasionally, when I think of one dog in particular, I can almost talk to her, but I don't hear a voice as much as feelings back. So let's try this, and let me know how you get on.

Have a look at the CoffeeTime video (on the website). It talks about setting up a reference point. Instead of coffee, recreate a realistic situation where you feel your dog could be. For example, did you watch TV and sit together? Or something like that. What you do is not important, just do something that would be 'normal'. Then, just as you would have previously, talk. Sometimes you talk to pets, other times you 'think' to them, if you know what I mean. Do that. Ask the questions you want to know. Just carry on, a one-way conversation, as you probably have done countless times before.

The difference is that now you want something back. What would you have got back before? A soft groan? A stretching of the legs. A wagging tail? Even though you may not believe it, expect something like that back. obviously, you could easily be making it up, or imagining it. Ignore that problem. Just do it. You could EASILY imagine the response to talking, or stroking your dog. Do it, and expect the response.

Now, the difference between imagining, and proving it's real, is just as I say on the video: Ask for something to verify you weren't imagining it. Here's where it makes no difference if it's a person, or the person speaks a different language, or it's a pet. Regardless, you can still get an image, feeling or sound that isn't necessarily 'speech'. From here, thank them for that, and then let it go. Over the course of the next few hours or days, if not already, you will come across a situation that will match, or make sense with what you got.

At this point, it's easy to dismiss it as pure coincidence. Fine. Do it again. After a few coincidences, you'll slowly realise it's very unlikely it COULD just be coincidence. From here, it's very easy to start to recognise and feel the difference between your own thoughts, and those that just 'pop in out of the blue' into your mind. And you won't need verification. You'll just 'know'.

I'm quite sure that will work, but let me know. Give it a few months. When you're very distressed, it's harder to do. So just take your time, and relax. I'm sure you'll have success. I may post this on the blog and invite others to try the same idea, and see if others can connect to their pets who have passed away. SHARE

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Enjoying helping

Tue, 05 Jan 2010 09:43:59 +1100

Just a quick note to say I'm enjoying doing readings again, and thanks to all for the positive comments. Doing shorter readings is helping me cope with demand, and I actually find it far more enjoyable, and less 'taxing' on me. Although I haven't done seminars for a while, it's similar to what I did then, and I enjoyed that emmensely at the time.

- Phil G.

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I dreamt my Nan said she was having a great time. I don't know what to make of it.

Mon, 04 Jan 2010 14:48:56 +1100

From Jess [England]: "My nan passed away recently and last night I had a dream that I called her, and she told me she was having a great time, and loved me. I don't know what to make of it."

This is a common question, and my initial answer is that she's visited you, but that's too simple and easy to say.

I believe that if you've had a 'visit' in a dream, it is very easy to remember the dream, in detail, days or even months later, because I think they can 'replay' the image in our mind, as opposed to a dream, where often it's a struggle to remember, or to remember detail, or to make sense of it.

So on that level I'd assume it's a visit.

But I want you to go further. I do explain this on the web site and in various articles, and in my videos, but I'll share it again here.

Either next time it happens, the following morning, or if you put aside a few minutes, quietly, to think about her, and recall a fond memory, or moment, and then simply say to her, out loud or in your mind, "If I'm not imagining it, tell me something I've forgotten, or something I don't know." Within 5 seconds, you'll get a very brief flash. Image, thought, sound, word, feeling. It will be momentary (to start with), come out of the blue, not be related to anything you're currently thinking about, as if the thought or sound popped into your head form out of the blue.

Thank her, and let it go.

Over the course of the next few hours or days, if not already, it will make sense. That's your confirmation. I share lots of examples, including from my own experience, in my book. Most don't believe it at first, so: Do it again. You'll find after a few times, the coincidences just can't be explained any other way.

I'm presuming you either didn't get a chance to say goodbye, or it wasn't possible for you to talk to her. That's why she's given you the chance to 'call her' would be my guess about the situation. If you do want to follow this up more, look over the YouTube videos linked from my website and have a think about the book (Soul Matters) or the CD "Contacting the Afterlife' - both of which will help you if you want to go further.

Take care, Phil

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If you'd like a reading...

Wed, 30 Dec 2009 16:31:18 +1100

There's been a lot of interest in my doing readings again.

To briefly explain, I stopped doing readings because it was taking up too much time, and I felt guilty making money from people. But I've had so many requests from all parts of the globe, especially from those who know someone for whom I've already done a reading, that I've decided to restart them, but as a more concise offering, meaning it's cheaper, and I can help more people. I'd much prefer people enjoy the magic of their own connection with loved ones who have passed away, and there is much material available on my website to help, but for those wanting readings, I offer a cheaper, shorter service.

Conducting readings is somewhat 'scary' for me. If you've read my background, I didn't know anything about being psychic prior to 2002, and it was with much reluctance I started in 2005. I know my style is probably different to a lot of others who do readings. I don't claim to be great, and I've long-ago given up trying to 'prove' I'm any good. Instead, I'm confortable doing what I can do, and if that doesn't suit, then we provide a refund so no-one should feel disadvantaged.

A few people have asked about Suicide or Murder instances

I share whatever I get, and type it as I think of the questions, and hear or feel the answers. If that involves wanting to know final moments or what was going on in their minds at the time, I share what comes through. I have been through many instances of unfortunate circumstances, often not understanding what the situation is, but what I'm feeling, and to many, my description matches what the circumstances would have been. But more importantly, I share answers, the reasons. I do so with great care and compassion. I understand these matters are difficult, but I share from the heart. Almost always, heartening words come through.

If you are thinking about a reading, I suggest you look at my style as shown in the longer 'famous spirits' readings. And then, what I suggest, is putting aside a few minutes, imagine the person you miss is beside you, in real life, and you had the chance to tell them things, or ask them things. About life now, as it was, or as it will turn out. Then write those questions down. And if you'd like the answers to those, I'm happy to assist you.

Reading requests are welcome from any country, and are provided by email. More information about readings is available here.

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Christmas wishes

Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:56:32 +1100

Now it's almost the holiday season, I thought it appropriate to share a few things.

Firstly, thank you to those who have offered kind words and thank yous. I do genuinely hope what I do helps people, both in overcoming some of their grief, but in also knowing loved ones are still around, and care about us.

I had a lovely letter from the USA this week from someone I have shared some 'readings' with from their son. I won't compromise their privacy, other than to share that whilst I had not done readings for a while, they were pleased I was now doing short readings, and this provided comfort to them.

I must admit, in my desire to help people gain their own connection, I sometimes forget the comfort that some short messages and confirmations from loved ones can bring. I have found since reintroducing 'short readings', it's been a way for people to gain additional comfort without large expense for you, or a large time commitment for me. If there is anyone else wondering, I don't mind doing more than one reading, if it helps. My only concern is that you don't live your life, locked into the 'need' to constantly hear from loved ones, or to constantly 'check' with them in order to live you life. I'm sure we're supposed to live our lives to the full, whatever that entails, good or bad. But if you need to hear from loved ones from time to time, I'm happy to do these readings. Just please be aware I fit them in around work, and family committments, and it sometimes takes me a little while to do them.

I've had a lot of orders for the CD since we put it on our shop page. I do know of some who have had some difficultity ordering from the supplier (LuLu) or they haven't wanted to download from one of the music sites. We've just ordered a batch of CD's which should be in stock soon, so that we can ship them more quickly.

Just quickly, I'm often asked if our departure (death) is all planned. As in, is everything pre-planned? I personally don't believe so, but that can be shown things as they will be if we don't change things. I was thinking about this question in light of a tragic car accident yesterday in Sydney (Australia), where a little boy was needlessly killed. I 'asked' my 'guys' on 'the other side' about this, and I got this answer back:

There are times when things happen for a reason. That reason may be difficult to understand at the time, but it dawns on us as time goes on. But often, things just happen. Accidents, freak things, for no reason. It wasn't 'planned', there wasn't some master plan in action. But those on the other side, and those still with us, help us to deal with life as it's presented to us. I was told we mustn't always 'search for an answer' to tragedy, but rather accept it, talk to those we miss, feel them around us, and acknwledge the little things they do to show they are around, without always wanting a great big obvious 'sign'. I think there is, for some, a feeling of having no control over life, but I don't believe that's right. I believe we are hear to learn, embrace, experience all life has to offer, both good or bad, and to share with others dealing with loss, that their loved ones are still with them.

Thank you so much to those who share my message and website with others. We only advertise in USA, Britain, and Australia, yet many enquiries and orders come from many other countries through sharing by a friend. If you know of someone grieving the loss of a loved one, and you think this information may help them, why not email them, phone them, or share on face book, this site? I appreciate your sharing, as advertising is terribly expensive, and I know those you share with, appreciate the thought so very much.

Finally, I was asked by a friend about my 'name'. If you're interested, when I first started sharing my unexplained 'talent' in 2005, my family were very concerned everyone would think I was weird. Well, thankfully, that hasn't happened much. But to respect their wishes, I used the initial G. When we started looking into search engines, the only reference that brought the site up first go, was to include the terms "Afterlife" and "Phil G". So that's why we put the words together on a lot of things, including the CD etc. I'm not one for catchy names and showbusiness, but that's how it happened, and we still use it because it helps people find the site. You can tell your friends to 'Goggle' the term "Afterlife Phil G" to find articles and references to my materials on this, and other websites.

Take care over the holiday break, and whatever your believe in religion, or lack of it, let the spirit of Christmas, the love and sharing and reaching out to others, carry you over the coming year. Take care. Phil.

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A request for guidance in developing psychic ability..

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:39:40 +1100

I recently had an enquiry from someone wanting to know if I could help them develop their own psychic skills.

It's not something I've really done before, but then, in a sense, I've been helping people for a few years discover that everyone has some psychic ability. Certainly, the starting point I would recommend for anyone, would be the CD/Download "Contacting The Afterlife"which I did so I could effectively be in your ears and sharing how to do this.

But this person has not had anyone close to them, pass away. Yet they have had feelings, or warnings, and have a 'need' to help people, to assist people and share what she's getting. I spent some time on the phone with her, sharing my humble experience of how to 'grow' her ability. In particular, I share my strong belief that you don't need elaborate props and tools - they're all just a support for when you're getting started. You need to trust what you're getting. I also warned her that when helping people, don't bring bad news through in a negative way. Despite my belief that you CAN see the future, I strongly believe it is not set it stone, and is only a vision of the future as it will be if you don't change. EXACTLY as depicted in the trilogy "Back To The Future" with Michael J Fox.

I have a very simplistic approach to all this. I have read a lot of books over the past few years, but only in trying to understand what I did. I don't think you can 'learn' how to be psychic in a strict sense, rather you can gain insight by reading material, that will enable you to become aware of your own, natural, inbuilt talents, albeit at an early stage.

If anyone would like assistance to go beyond simply contacting family and friends, with a view to helping others, let me know and I'll think about how I could do that. Or perhaps you could suggest.

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One less person at Christmas. How do I cope?

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 07:54:37 +1100

Around this time of year, I get many enquiries from people who have lost somene special, and Christmas seems to be so much emptier without them. Here's my answer for those in this situation at this traditionally happy time of year:

I know people are at different stages of believing, or recognizing, that loved ones who have passed away are still with you. Regardless of where you're at, here's my advice. Carry on as normal. Do everything you would normally do. Put the tree up, decorate the house, invite family over, or whatever you used to do. Do the same. Embrace the joy of having this missing person, in your thoughts and lives this Christmas.

This isn't to say you are in denial. No. This is to share their life with you. Set a spot at the table. If family think you're crazy, tell them it's to honor them, to recognize the importance of this person in your/ the family's life. For you, it's so you have a reference point. So you can imagine this special person is actually there.

If you want to know precisely how to know they're there, consider the CD or Download "Contacting the Afterlife" on the shop page. If you're not to that stage, the carry on over the Christmas dinner or lunch as if this person is actually with you. Pretend they're with you as you open presents. In everything you do at this special time of year, include them, in your thoughts, as if they're there.

Sometime during this season, you will get something. A sign. An image, thought, word, feeling, will pop into your mind that will cause you to think for just a moment, that maybe it's real. Hold on to that thought. Don't question it. Just accept it.

Bit by bit, you will come to realise, as I did and share in my book "Soul Matters", that you're not imagining it. And it changes how you feel about their loss. You feel happier, more content, more able to carry on. Not the same. No. It's not the same, but it does help and comfort.

Christmas Blessings and Best wishes. Phil G.

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I think I've had 'a sign'. How do I ask him to be around?

Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:21:40 +1100

I've received a few questions lately from those who have lost a loved one unexpectedly, suspect they're around, but want to know they're around. An example was from Chicago, USA, from a young woman who lost her partner whilst he was overseas. Totally close, gone too soon, she 'knew', as did the children, that something was very wrong the day he passed.

The advice I gave her, and others in that situation, is firstly, to disregard others who may think you're being foolish to think you are being contacted. Secondly, accept that they are around, and 'talk' to them as if they are beside you. Use my 'coffeetime video' or I deal with how to do this in detail in both my books, and especially in my CD (see shop page) . If you feel they are around, or you've had a sign, don't start 'looking' for the signs, rather, assume they are with you. Tell the children they are around. Talk to them as if they are with you.

What you will find if you do this, if not straight away, certainly gradually over coming weeks, you will get the feeling you're not alone, and as I describe, as them to share proof they are around. You will find after a while, that you 'know' the difference between your own thoughts, and those that come 'out of the blue' and are inconsistent with your own thoughts at the time.

But the starting point, is to just start, without expecting too much. I always caution about how others will react, so I generally suggest you calmly do this by yourself. Most will tell you to 'let them go' and get on with your life. But as I told this young lady, you can still get on with your life, but stay in contact, be protected, guided, cared for, by your love that has passed away. That's not 'holding on' to the past. It's showing how much you care, and how much they meant to you.

In particular, don't be afraid to share with the children. You don't have to make a big deal about it, or make it all mystic or scary. You can just share that they are around, protecting them. Encourage them to 'talk' with their father. Children often find this easier to do than adults. I taught my own son to do this when he was 12 (I share the story in my book "Soul Matters'), and he has proven many times that his 'pop' (grandfather) is around, and looking after him.

-Phil

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New Site

Sun, 06 Dec 2009 09:55:40 +1100

If you haven't taken a look at the website for a while, my son has done a great job of making it look better, and easier to navigate. - Phil

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Shop Cart correction

Sun, 29 Nov 2009 17:00:16 +1100

Our apologies for an error in the shopping cart. the 'post and handling option' was adding an additional $5 to each product.

This has now been corrected, and anyone affected will have the $5 error reversed immediately. If anyone notices any errors on the site, please inform us here. Thanks.

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I Saw His Ghost Walking Down The Hall - Answers From Phil G

Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:59:16 +1100

Angela [USA]: When I was 13, my Mom's Boyfriend died... I saw part of a man's leg walking past my room. I got up, looked down the hall and saw my Mum's door wide open (she always closes it). When I reached the door, it slammed shut in my face. I want to see him again, I miss him, but I don't live there any more.

Interesting you had such a vivid image. Very few are able to have that clarity. Can I suggest, to keep things in context, that I personally believe the image was/is in YOUR MIND, and not actually in front of you. Stay with me, because I'm hoping this will help you reconnect.

Most people who have some psychic ability get images or feelings of some kind, and it's usually in their mind. On that basis, they "see" something. In my own case, I often "see"people, but although they're there, I feel they're being projected there. For example, when my father passed away, at his funeral, part of the ceremony was an official section because of his involvement in World War 2, and as they were doing that, I could clearly see, probably 100 or more, men in uniform saluting him as my Dad stood beside the coffin. I don't feel they were standing as I "saw" them, but that's the way my Dad wanted to show me who was there, and how they were honoring him.

Because I know "they" can be anywhere, I am happy to occasionally (rarely in my Dad's case) have people around, without having to be at the place I first had the experience. So although I "saw" my Dad at the funeral place, I don't need to be back there to see him again. So in your case, I personally feel you were seeing the image of him walking down the hall (to get your attention which he did rather spectacularly) and then slam the door to really cement the experience. I don't doubt at all that could have happened. I have heard many stories of equally improbably things happening. But the key here is to know you were being SHOWN his image, and he doesn't have to be just where you first saw him.

So was he nice, kind to you? You weren't scared? You say you miss him.

Have you watched the YouTube video yet ("CoffeeTime" ) Try that, and when you get to the "talking" bit, think back to the times you had with him, the tell him the things you'd like to say.

For example, if I was to ask you to spend 10 minutes emailing me all the things you like about him, why you'd like him around again, you could probably find a few nice things, right? Well, do that for him. Do this NOW. Talk (out loud or in your head) and occasionally, pause, not necessarily expecting anything, but just be aware or "feel" things.

You probably won't get a strong image like last time (otherwise I think you would have had another experience like it before now) so you're probably "out of practice’" so-to-speak). So expect little things, feelings, images. It's the FIRST step.

Take care, Phil

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Did Michael Jackson Have A Reason To Die?

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:57:46 +1100

June [NY, USA] asks "Did Michael Jackson have a reason to die. Some people think there is a reason for death. Do you believe that?"

"I'll just post a short answer for the moment to this question: Sometimes, I personally struggle to find a reason, but afterwards, it often becomes apparent to everyone, regardless of how upsetting or unexpected or tragic the initial circumstances can be. I know that doesn't always apply, but if often does.

From time to time I have had people in the public eye who come to me after passing. Always, I have either kept it private, or tried to share it if possible with those it applies to. I will share my own thoughts, but I have been privileged to have had several visits from Michael since his passing. I was unable to reach his family, but recently, he visited saying it was alright to share some information publicly. I am in the process of recording several 'interviews' with him (I know that sound absurd, but it's the only way I can describe what this is like!) and will work with him to ensure I only share what he is willing to share, with utmost discretion and compassion. The rest will only be for his family if I ever get the opportunity to share it with them.

I feel his Grandmother has always been concerned about Michael, of being taken advantage of, of being worked too hard. She was concerned that his planned concert block was going to be an enormous strain on him, and whilst he was overwhelmed with excitement and gratitude that so many people wanted to see him again, the demands to deliver such a high standard, a high expectation over so many nights, was in itself overwhelming.

I feel that the criticism that has been placed at him over the years in the media, the unkind remarks, and the lack of album success would be indicative of how the world would judge him over his fading years. As unfortunate as his death was, and as untimely as it was, 'they' (those on 'the other side') I feel have taken him 'on a high' so to speak, at a point where he leaves virtually at the peak of his career, rather than at the end of a long decline.

I noticed on the day of his death, our local media initially used some negative comments regarding his personal life within the context of explaining his death, but this evaporated within hours as the media realized the greater public did not want to hear about or know about the negative. Much like the tragic death of Princess Diana. At the time, the press had been cruel to her, unforgiving, yet within hours, the media, indeed, the entire Royal Family, were stunned at the public response, and any negative talk disappeared, and has remained virtually unmentioned ever since that day. I think this is what has happened, and will continue to happen with Michael.

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Coming To Grips With Spirit Contact

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 09:56:12 +1100

Today's enquiry to Phil's web site on spirit contact comes from England, from a lady who has followed-up from previous correspondence regarding wanting contact, or to 'know of' contact, from her mother, who she missed deeply. She has tried to 'connect' but feels she isn't getting anything.

"I've had a few people who have struggled with this. Perhaps some don't get it as clearly, or as easily. My secretary is one, but she now gets little hints or feelings, and is content with that, so perhaps I'll talk from her perspective, and how I helped her reach that point. I generally start by suggesting not to try too hard. If we leave this topic for a moment, and think about talent shows on TV - the ones who try really hard to do a good job generally fail, because it's all too rigid and planned. The ones who generally do better are the ones who just have fun and get on with it without thinking. But in your case, rather than suggest don't try too hard, as ridiculous as this sounds, I want you to stop trying completely! Please keep reading. I’m not giving up on you!

So, stop trying completely. I think the thing with some people is they don't easily 'hear' things, then expect too much, and get nothing at all. So let’s start by not trying to get anything back at all.

Can you recreate the situation, either physically, or in your mind, of a time when she was with you, and you were talking about THE FAMILY. It may be a recent experience, or one from many years ago, perhaps when your first child arrived and she was giving you advice. It could be anything, but it needs to be a comforting situation, where YOUR TALKED TO HER, and SHE WAS CARING IN HER RESPONSES TO YOU. Are you with me on this? Perhaps a time when she was giving you motherly advice. Now I want you to do whatever it takes to completely imagine that situation is real, now, today.

IF you can't create the physical environment, create it in your mind. Sit in your favourite chair or spot, and imagine you are in that spot. Now think about the TYPE of conversation you had back then. Either talk to her about current events in the same way you did then, or reminisce about the actual type of things you talked about then. Don’t stress about trying to remember everything, I just want you to feel in that environment. Now here's where I need you to trust me for a moment. Imagine, pretend, or believe that she’s beside you as you have these thoughts. Preferably have your eyes closed so you can blank out the world. Be relaxed, feel relaxed, don't ask for anything or expect anything, or try and get anything. Just make this a ONE WAY event. I don't want you to try and think about what she replied, or what she would reply now. Just talk in your head (or out loud) from YOUR perspective, and feel she's around, but don't worry about getting anything. Do this for as long as you can. At no point should you try and 'get something' from her.

Just keep this a totally one-way event. It's just you talking to her. When you run out of things to say, pause while you think of something else to say. And then continue. This could be 5 minutes or an hour, it doesn't matter. The key point here is to talk until you can't think of anything else, PAUSE, and then talk some more. Let me explain why I'm suggesting this, but DON'T try and get what I'm going to tell you – just let it happen. You're expecting too much or the wrong thing, either way, she can't connect to you. That doesn't mean she's not there. I'm being told to suggest you watch the film "Just like Heaven" if you haven't already. There's a scene in there were the girl's sister is totally unaware, and unbelieving, that her sister's spirit is in the room, yet the little girl sets another place at the table, because the little girl can see her. I think it will help you understand this point, and my guys are strongly suggesting you watch this movie. So just because you don't feel her there, doesn't mean she isn't, or that she's not trying to contact you. And most of all, don't get annoyed at her for not contacting you or trying hard enough!!

As you run out of things to say, the pause will allow her to move a 'feeling' to you. Sort of, if you can imagine, you have this one-way shower of words and thoughts and love going over to her, sitting or standing in that spot you imagine in your mind, and when you stop for a moment, she can just gently bounce the love and feelings BACK to you. If you can imagine those thoughts and feelings like a soft breeze, and when it comes back, you feel the slightest flutter on your skin, or shiver, or 'knowing' that she's there. It will probably be very faint, and I DON'T WANT YOU TO WAIT FOR IT, ASK FOR IT, OR EVEN EXPECT IT. I just want you to be aware it could happen, but it doesn't matter if it doesn't.

A little like my son when he was younger. He was terrible at catching a ball. We spent hours throwing the ball to each other. He'd throw it to me, I'd catch it, and I'd gently throw it back, and he'd try to catch it, but it just never seemed to connect. Sometimes it would go right over his head, and he had no idea it was there. Other times, he reached to catch it and it would go straight through his hands without even touching! One day, I had the idea that he should stop trying to catch it, and just have fun BEING with me in the backyard, and he slowly started to catch the ball because he wasn't concentrating on it. Nothing changed, but when he stopped trying, he caught it.

So that's why I'm suggesting to relax, talk, and keep talking and pause when you can't think of anything else to say. And it's the fact your trying to think of the next topic or thing to say that will stop you from trying to 'listen' or 'feel' the reply in the gap or pause – and that's why I want you to keep thinking of something to say, rather than waiting for "the sign". Does that make sense? After all that, if you get nothing, it doesn't matter.

Re do this again at another time. But always do it with love, because you want to SHARE with her, not because you WANT something from her. That's really important. It may take one go, or it may take 6 months. It doesn't matter. Now, when you DO think you get something, don't smother it! Don’t grasp for more, more signs, more feelings. Just accept whatever small thing you get, and then do the exercise again. I know it's frustrating for you, but in your case, I think it will take a while, just be patient, and once you 'get it', it becomes SO EASY. I know this from those who have written back to me. Let me know how you get on. Phil"

More on contacting the afterlife can be found at www.philg.net.au

tags: spirit contact, life after death, contacting the afterlife, afterlife, grief,

Reincarnation. Does it interfere with being able to contact those in the Afterlife?

Wed, 30 Sep 2009 08:53:51 +1000

From Gloria [Cincinnati, USA]: Thanks for all the help you have been in during my recent transition in becoming aware of my contact with someone who has passed. I am beginning to hear from my friend, sometimes in words, and I wanted to let you know I think you must be right about the fact that it is not necessary for our dead friends to "go to the light" and disappear from our lives.

Here is my reasoning. Sometimes I ask my friend about something that is going to happen; I'm asking for a little guidance. His response tends to be, "It already has happened." That's interesting. He does not experience time as I do, because these events have not happen for me yet, but they have for him. Which means that he lives outside of time as I know it.

I'm not entirely sure how it works, but perhaps he experiences all events on my timeline simultaneously.... But he is not subject to time himself. That's why I think it unlikely that he will have to "go to the light" at some time in the future. I am the one with the future; everything is all-present for him. There may be times of my life when it is more critical that I have contact with him, but he already is in the light, just as everything else already "is" for him.

I had contact with a Hypnotherapist who said it was important for my friend to "go to the light" at some future time so he could be reincarnated. I'm not sure how to answer the questions about reincarnation, but I think the need to go to the light is inconsistent with my friend's experience of time--which is really only my experience of time. What is your information about the need to reincarnate? Could it interfere with our contacting someone who has passed?

HI Gloria, Nice to hear from you. Thanks for the kind words. Yes, I am totally convinced there is no need to 'go to the light'. You asked about my thoughts on if it interferes with contacting. I actually don't think that happens. I'm not sure where people's experiences of near-death, and seeing the light, fit into all this, but my feeling is the light they see is actually as they become unaware of the world around us and are becoming part of the energy around us, rather than 'going away' somewhere. If that's the case, then I think the concept of 'going to the light' comes from these reports of near-death.

I have mentioned it somewhere recently, but I had a lady that perfectly illustrates why I don't think it happens like that, and why I don't think it interferes. She was told by friends to 'Let her husband go' - and she did so, and hadn't felt he was around for about 5 years until I saw her. I know he was around at that time, because I shared an amusing story with her about planting bulbs upside down, which surprised her, because that's exactly what she had done - and of course, like me, they didn't grow. I explained to her that - why would I have thought of that, unless he had told me to say it? I explained that I felt he had 'left her' to honour her wishes.

She was deeply upset by this, and asked what she had to do to get him back. I assured her he was not angry or upset, and would be happy to be part of her life again. Some weeks later, she wanted to see me, and I dropped in on her. She explained in much detail how she knew her husband was indeed back in her life. So if they do 'go away' they can come back.

You mention reincarnation. I personally think, from my own logic, and some conversations with my mother, (passed), that they stay around, or are contactable, until there are no more people that need to be able to contact them or need their help. I would think that generally goes back about 70-100 years. So, generally speaking, I can contact my Grandfather, but I don't feel I could contact my Great-Great Grandfather. I have found exceptions to that on occasion, but I think generally that's the case.

I suppose the real message I'd like to leave with people who are reading this, is to know that loved ones who have passed away don't have to 'go away' to some place away from us. That they're contactable, around, willing to be with you, comfort you, and continue to share your joys and sorrows. More at www.philg.net.au

tags: spirit contact, life after death, contacting the afterlife, afterlife, grief,

Sharing Spirit Contact Experiences: My Dad Died On My Birthday

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 08:51:47 +1000

From England, I'd like to share these words:"My dad died several years ago on my birthday. For some time now I have been interested in the Afterlife and I am sure it exists.

I asked my dad to show me a sign if he could hear me. Later that day, I walked to my local shop and on the street I saw a load of "Cherry Lips" sweets. When I was small, my mother was in hospital and I had to stay with my aunt for a while. Every night on the way to the hospital my Dad would visit me and bring me a bag of "Cherry Lips". I didn't even like them but never told him as I didn't want to upset him.

I thought that this could be a coincidence, so when I got home I asked him to show me something else. I turned on the TV and there was a property programme on. The estate agent answered his phone with the name of the business - the name of the business was my Dad's name!

A few weeks later, I was driving down the road and I had a thought come into my mind that I would see something else from my Dad in print. Later that day, I bought the local paper, and there was an article showing old photos and there was one of the local cricket team dated 1956 (the year I was born) and sitting in the front row was my Dad!!!!

There was one other small thing that happened concerning my mum. She had to attend the hospital to see the consultant as she was having surgery. My sister took her for her appointment and they were sitting in the waiting room for quite some time. The receptionist called the next patient and called out my Dad's name. No one replied but my Mum was there, but my Dad had passed away ages ago and had never used that hospital. My mum thought it was a premonition that she wasn't going to survive the operation but I told her it was probably my dad trying to give her comfort.

Thanks for sharing your experience. If anyone reading this would like to share their experiences of contact from the Afterlife, or learn more, feel free to visit my site: philg.net.au

tags: spirit contact, life after death, contacting the afterlife, afterlife, grief,

Watching TV With His Deceased Wife? Normal Or Insane? More On Spirit Contact From Phil G

Wed, 16 Sep 2009 08:48:06 +1000

George [Iowa, USA] writes that since the loss of his wife, he often 'feels' she sits with him watching TV at night. He writes: "Am I going insane, or am I really feeling her spirit, and if so, how can I be sure?" It's quite common for people when they experience the loss of a loved one claim to feel the presence of their spirit near them, especially at favourite places or times.

Such as George who wrote to me about his recently departed wife. Their evenings would consist of sitting in front of the TV watching whatever is on. His sense of loss is naturally immense, but lessened somewhat by the feeling she is still around. The majority of the population will feel this, even if only momentarily, immediately following the loss of a close friend or family member. Have you ever been at a funeral, and you can just 'feel' a presence? Perhaps not clearly, or visions etc, but a sense you're not alone? Perhaps that's why even hardened sceptics, at funerals, can be heard to mutter a final goodbye, even if they don't believe in life after death. But if so, why talk to someone who's not there? If you are totally closed to the concept of spirit contact will dismiss my words as taking advantage of the weak minded. Believe what you will, I certainly won't change your mind. But if you have suffered the loss of a loved one, you know the feeling.

Life is such a short experience. I sometimes think it would be so much easier to cope with a loss, if we all had a date printed on our wrists so we'd know when our time was up. We could plan our lives so much better, and everyone else would be prepared for the worst. But yes, "life is like a box of chocolates - you never know what you're going to get.." Regardless of whether you've lost someone through accident, ill health, or foul play, makes no difference. At the funeral, you can feel their presence. As time goes on, you feel it less, and if you struggle with the concept of life after death, you will gradually let the feeling go. Or perhaps you will seek out those who claim to be able to talk to the dead. But even if you do, it's never enough, or they're never good enough. How can it be enough? You want them back, to share what's going on in your life, be part of your joys and sorrows, and help you make decisions. But you CAN do all this.

Revisit your thinking when your loved one passed away. You felt them near. WHAT DID YOU DO? You TALKED to them didn't you. You said a few words. Mentioned happy times, told them you loved them, wished they were still here, and more. So what happened? Did you almost imagine they were with you, beside you, hearing you, perhaps even imagine for a moment they were 'talking' back to you in your head? Could you 'see' them? In your mind, you could imagine they were standing near you, and your thoughts were totally on this image or feeling, to the point of blanking out all other thoughts and sounds around you? If that's the case, then you have already experienced spirit contact. The difference between what you've felt before and how to know it's real, is a simple matter of persevering, and finding a way to confirm it. So for George, who sits with his wife watching TV and wonders if it's real, I say: Talk to her as if she's with you. Just like you did at her funeral. Tell her what's going on in your life. Share.

You will 'feel' a 2-way conversation in your head as you do this. This is clearly shown in the films "Sleepless in Seattle" and "PS I love you". The only step left is to confirm. Just ask for something to show it's real. A thought, image, word, feeling, smell - something will pop into your head which will allow you to confirm it wasn't an accident, and over the next few hours or days, you will be presented with confirmation based on that thought. As you keep doing this, gradually feel the difference, in your mind, between your own thoughts and those that are coming into your head from 'no-where' - your departed loved one. It won't take too many attempts to recognize the difference.

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

tags: spirit contact, life after death, contacting the afterlife, afterlife, grief,

Spirit Contact: Believing It's Possible Is The First Step.

Thu, 20 Aug 2009 08:46:09 +1000

I want you, an ordinary person, who grieves the loss of a loved one, to understand how simple it is to connect with the Afterlife. But you will find it hard if you don't believe it's possible. And TV shows such as "The Ghost Whisperer" don't help you either!

On my Cd "Contacting The Afterlife - A Spoken Beginner's Guide" I start off with a track called "Accepting The Possibility". The reason I do that, is that if you are closed to the concept of being able to contact spirits or contact the afterlife, you will find it much harder to do, and make it much harder for those who are trying to come through to you to do so.

I believe anybody can recognize and verify the signs of contract from family and friends in the afterlife. I do not believe you need a special gift to be able to contact spirits from the Afterlife. Unlike many people around the world who are clairvoyants or spiritualists, - your family and friends who have passed away, that you miss, long for, grieve for, or want to know they're okay, are contactable by normal everyday people- just like you. I also believe that most people are able to experience spirit contact with the person they want to, and verify it.

I did a reading with a rather large family group a while ago and I brought through information for most people in the room. However, there was a man in the corner of the room, showing interest, but having no desire to participate. During a reading, I ask my guys on the other side for guidance, and I got a strong "don't bother with the man in the corner" feeling. At the end of the session, I always ask if there are any general questions.

Someone in the room asked what happens if you completely do not believe spirit contact is possible? I explained nicely that it's the right of every individual to believe things or not believe things. But I felt very much as if she was referring to the gentleman in the corner of the room. Not wanting to offend him, I explained my thoughts on everybody being entitled to their belief. But I went on to explain that I think it is a pity where a particular family member will go beyond this, and ridicule the rest of the family for the believing in contact with the spirit world. This is no different to whether somebody does or doesn't like football. Some people love it, some people hate it. But I think it is a shame when one person expects everyone else to share the same view.

So in the same way that I believe afterlife contact is possible, I also accept that some people don't believe it's possible. I only share my information with those who are interested. In my everyday circle of friends and acquaintances, I don't start talking to people all the time about afterlife contact, and expecting them all to believe it. I let them go on about their daily life, and some people know what I do and some people don't. Those who do know what I do, I leave to them to their thoughts unless someone actually asks me about it. I don't ram this down people's throats. So in the return, I would like to think people who don't believe this don't ram it down other people's throats either.

In this particular case, fortunately, the man in question, although he did not believe contact with the afterlife, he did leave the rest of the family open to their own thoughts and opinions. That's wonderful. Everyone can then reach their own conclusion. The problem with forcing your beliefs on others in the family, if you don't believe this is possible, is that you cut off your nose to spite your face. When that person crosses over to the other side and they suddenly realise that this is possible, they've already convinced their family it's not possible, and they can't come through.

Now I have actually had this happened a few times. I sometimes have spirits come through who are completely surprised that they're still around! They can see and hear what's going on, and they are aware their family is here, but they can't come through, because the family won't believe it. Now fortunately, in some of those cases I am then able to help them understand that it is possible and get them past that point. But generally it's quite difficult. And that's why I believe it's important to let people come to their own opinion

If you don't believe contact with the spirit world is possible, it makes it much harder for them to come through. You need too much proof. I find this when I do readings that those who are open-minded catch on to the things that do come through and are happy to accept them as proof. The problem is those who don't, always want more proof - it's never enough. If you watch the film "Ghost" you can see Patrick's frustration with trying to prove he's around Demi.

If somebody wants birthdays and you bring through birthdays, then a person who was negative and turned off by this will quite correctly be able to say it could be a lucky guess or a trick. And that's true, some people can do that. If it's down to favourite colours and foods, it still comes down to a possible lucky guess, or maybe you're priming the person for information. The problem is there's never enough proof. It's a bit like the person who would be as ridiculous as saying there is no such thing as electricity coming through the power point, and you want to prove it by sticking their finger in the socket. They do, they die. There will never be enough proof until you die.

I've been asked some times whether the TV show "The Ghost Whisperer" is what it's really like. I'm not saying to believe everything you see, particularly on TV. All I am saying is, you should be open-minded. I have a problem with a lot of TV shows and movies, who portray contact with the afterlife as something that it's not. There are those who are gifted who do get very clear specific information with very the images. The other thing I find with a show like "The Ghost Whisperer" is that it wrongly shows she stops and listens to large volumes of information with complete sentences. It generally doesn't happen like that, particularly for ordinary "non-psychic" people wanting to connect with family and friends for the first time.

For most people it's a burst of information. So what might take two or three sentences to come through in normal conversation can take a split-second: as an image or a thought for a feeling. That's why many spiritualists struggle at times to explain in words. That's important for you as a normal, non-psychic person who may not be terribly psychic to realise this.

A momentary burst of an image, a feeling or a couple of words. It comes through quickly and it's usually the first thing you think of when you ask for some information. I talk about this my book and on my CD and my other materials: So in my son's case when he first got some information through from my mother, he didn't get told he's being shown a picture of the wattle tree with the yellow fluffy balls of wattle, with his dad (me) standing in front of it. He got a split-second image of a tree with cotton wool balls on in - and a bit later, saw the cotton-wool as yellow, and I was the one who had to piece together the fact that he was seeing the wattle tree I had a picture of, with me standing in front of it.

The information that comes through to you will be brief, and will be over very quickly, it isn't really in full sentences. It's often in feelings. I'm bringing this up because most people who watch a TV show like that will think it comes through like that and it doesn't. It's almost like three sentences could be encapsulated in one brief feeling that you would have trouble explaining fully in words, but you know what it means. And that's what you're looking for, when they contact you. It's just this little rush of information which makes perfect sense to you even though it might be difficult for you to explain.

If you don't understand this, it's so easy to miss the signs of contact, because you get a little burst of information and then you think it couldn't possibly be right. Why would I have thought of that? But you did. And it's real. Use the information in my video and on my website, CDs, book to help you understand that family in the Afterlife can contact you. You don't have to be gullible, but just believe it. You don't even have to believe it's really happening. I just want you to believe that it's possible. Because if you do that, then you'll find things will start coming through. And my website explains how to verify it's real.

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

tags: spirit contact, life after death, contacting the afterlife, afterlife, grief,

Do We Have Emotional Needs When We Cross Over?

Wed, 15 Jul 2009 08:43:47 +1000

From Cincinnati, a reader asks this question on spirit contact: "Is it possible that those who have died have any emotional needs, like belonging or comfort or just to know someone loves them? Do they hold anger? Here, 'Afterlife Phil ' shares his insight and answer. More on spirit contact at afterlifephilg.com

Phil: Thanks for your questions about how we feel after we die. I think they want to be with us, help us, and guide us. I say this because I've just replied to someone who was almost involved with someone, but never quite got there, and now feels closer to this person than her actual husband, and she's quite frustrated by it all. But I don't think they want to be in a relationship like we picture it. I think it's simply a case of wanting to be with us, or help us.

Find a purpose in life was my advice to her, and perhaps even let the person coming through from the other side to help her find that purpose. I know several who have done this, and found much joy and purpose in life, still connected with their special person who has crossed over, but with a purpose for their own lives.

They absolutely have emotion, but I'm not sure it's emotional needs. It's like the end line in the film "Ghost" where Patrick says "The love inside, you take it with you" I feel is so true. I know in readings, it's quite common where there's a strong emotional bond (e.g. partners, or parents) for me to feel totally overwhelmed by their grief (on the other side) and it's not uncommon for me to be in tears not able to adequately share the words, but totally share the feeling, with those sitting in front of me. So whilst I don't feel they "blame" us, they most certainly hold the emotion of love, caring and so on.

I don't generally feel they NEED our acceptance or love, but certainly there are times when they do. My own father-in-law desperately wanted my wife to forgive him for not treating her better (he wasn't bad to her, just didn't accept her and support her as he should have). In suicide cases, I know there is a desperate longing from those who have crossed over, to be forgiven by those they leave behind - like they didn't realise the problems they would leave behind.

You ask about the range of emotion they feel. If I can hand over to my guys on 'the other side' for a moment: "We're comfortable within ourselves (on the other side), but especially for those who have recently crossed, it's like they have so much homework to complete and they need to tick things off the list before they can become calm. Like going to sleep. If there's a whole lot on your mind, you can't rest properly until you've done those things, then you can relax and go to sleep.

If we have a lot to do, a lot to say, it's like when you want to tell a friend lots of things, and they want to hear about something else, but you can't talk about that yet because you HAVE to deal with these other things first". I hope those words give you some insight. I'll leave out a few things that were for my reader, personally, but she asks about anger. Where there is anger from those who have crossed over, it generally subsides after a while. I rarely find they hold the anger.

Acceptance is an important need that we can help them with. I think they can TRY to influence us, help us, guide us, but they can't MAKE us do anything, and I think they derive enormous satisfaction that we first of all listen, and secondly accept they're there. The 'asking for proof' that I suggest (on my website: afterlifephilg.com) only works for a while, because after a while, you KNOW the difference between your own thoughts and theirs, and it gets tiresome to them to keep proving things - and that shows them you don't accept what they share. So I think our greatest gift to them, that they want, long for, perhaps not need, but strongly desire, is an acceptance of them, their actions in the physical world whether they were good or bad, their presence in our lives now, and their willingness to help us where needed.

I think the negativity that you talk about will gradually float away. Like when you meditate, as you relax, no matter how much 'negative' feeling you have, if you relax long enough, you just give up on that feeling and let it go, so in that sense, I think they probably have those feelings to start with, but let them go. I hope this helps you, and my readers, have a greater understanding of how to accept and deal with loved ones who have crossed over.

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

tags: spirit contact, life after death, contacting the afterlife, afterlife, grief,

Where is my son? Is he where I placed the cross?

Tue, 14 Jul 2009 08:41:23 +1000

Dealing with Grief: June (name changed), from Birmingham, UK, writes: my son died in an accident recently. I'm not sure if it was an accident, or caused deliberately by someone, but regardless, I need to know where he is. I read an article of yours about a year ago talking about people who put crosses on the roadside of car accidents. And you said that's not where the 'soul' is. I need to know what you mean. Thanks June. Phil G shares his answers on spirit contact.

I have changed this lady's name at her request. However she has given me permission to share my answer with others so that might help them also. I can't recall the exact article or reply that you are referring to but I do talk about this in my book "Soul Matters - You Can Talk With The Ones You Miss". I totally understand your grief and despair. First of all you wanted to know if it was an accident or was it caused deliberately. I am not in "reading mode", but as I think of your words "an accident" it feels wrong. My next feeling is that it was an event that didn't turn out the way they (the ones who caused it) wanted, and it went considerably worse than what they expected. I say this because I am being shown surprise and despair at what they can see is about to happen.

So, whilst I feel it was on purpose, I don't feel there is a laying of blame against these people for the final result (your son's death). If I can just elaborate on this point for a moment because I commonly get questions from people who want to know about tragic circumstances. Whether there is blame either officially laid or unofficially laid at a person or group of people, the message that comes through time and time again to me is this: Whilst they may be angry or upset or showing me the blame, there is also a feeling that there is no point doing anything about this.

One gentleman in the New York particularly felt the need to retaliate, for the death of his son, who was coming home to celebrate his birthday when tragedy struck. The boy understands the tragic situation that occurred to him and the trauma it has caused his family, but he was at pains to explain to his father to "let it go". They don't want us to do dwell on what has happened or on retaliation. That statement isn't for them, it's for US. They understand the immense stress and heartache that causes us and holding onto it over a period of time will do nothing more than make you ill. At worst, you may end up doing something you regret. Always in this type of situation that feeling comes through, and it's coming through now in your particular case, June: that it doesn't matter and you need to let it go. For your sake. And yes, I understand you know who caused it all, or who would most likely have caused it. You are right. But you need to let it go for your own health, which I feel is deteriorating.

The scene of an accident (where sometimes people put a cross or flowers), is not where the spirit, or soul is now. I often have that feeling when someone is about to pass away. They leave and quite often before everyone else realises (including the medical people) that they have died. I was surprised by a TV series that I saw recently in Australia, where they showed a girl dying in a hospital bed. It's unusual for a TV show to get it right. I suspect that whoever wrote this scene deeply understands what really happens.

They wrote the scene that the person was leaving the soul and walking off to the white light, prior to everyone else realising she had died. I don't necessarily feel they go into the white light, at least straight away, but I do believe the soul frequently leaves their bodies before they have passed away. This show had the girl's soul leaving her body about two minutes before the alarm sounded. The doctors race in trying to revive her unsuccessfully. Whilst some would be distressed by that show and what I just shared, I think it's important to share it here, because it helps to answer June's question.

So, why do they leave their body before the very end? I believe maybe somewhere in the deep distant future science will catch up to this and prove it right. With all our knowledge and understanding of the human body there is so much that we don't understand particularly of the mind, of souls, and I personally believe our understanding of what happens at the final moments of death is grossly misunderstood by doctors and science. They are looking at what appears to be correct, but I don't believe it is. What is in the reason we're spared from the final moments of death, such as in an accident?

Those in the Afterlife, looking after us, don't want them to go through that final moment of pain and suffering, and they take them away from the situation. I believe that happened to most cause in the Twin Towers tragedy. So where is their soul? The problem I have with people who think they have to keep going back to the site of an accident is that I firmly believe that's not where they are. That may be where they were, physically, when the accident occurred. At the moment it happen their soul has left, protected, shielded. In many many cases, they will have already travelled over to where we are, where the most important person or persons in their life are, and visited them briefly. Many have shared their experiences with me of exactly this point. It may have happened to you.

It's happened to me. My mother was in hospital and she had been there for several weeks and was recuperating. We saw her earlier in the day. We were told by the doctors she was coming good. I'm in bed at night, and the phone rings. I knew the moment the phone rang she had passed away. Why would I think that? I had received many phone calls prior to this to say she is not well come over straight away. On none of those occasions did I feel she had died. I know of many who have a similar experience to share.

So, if they can be with someone perhaps miles or thousands of miles away at the time they've passed away or just after that it suggests to me that they're not still at the site. When I have done readings in a situation where there has been an accident like this, I often get a little image of people standing around in horror looking at what's happened and I can feel or see the souls leaving the body, stepping back, and looking on with wonder. Just like you see in the film "Ghost" where Patrick Swayze is standing, looking, not sure, not understanding what has just happened. So the next question is, as Jean writes, where is her son? I differ in my opinion from many others on this topic.

Everyone is entitled to their own belief. But I am very confident that what I am about to say is right. They don't go away. After a while, they don't need to be with you because you're getting on with your life and coping and they go off and do what they need to do. But they can come back any time you need them to. In the case of someone who has only recently passed away, I promise they are with you. They are beside you. They are watching you make the dinner, look at their things, their photo, holding things that used to belong to them. They're not trying to haunt you and they're not trying to pry. I know they're not interested in the things you do right or wrong, or wanting to watch you have a shower! That doesn't come into it.

They are around when you grieve and cry and mourn the loss of a loved one. They can see that, and you can feel it if you let them in. They share your tears. They can be with you when you sit or stand, putting their arm around your shoulder and comforting you. Have a look at my site on the spirit contact (afterlifephilg.com). You don't need to just take my word for it. You can prove this yourself. In particular, think about my book or CD or have a look at the YouTube video there. When you grieve, June and you wonder where your son is, think of him. Talk to him. Thank him for being with you. Just be aware of what you feel. Not always, but nearly always, you will feel them near you. It might be a feeling like someone touched you, or spoke to you, or a shiver up your spine. Don't dismiss it as being silly or being imagined. Embrace the feeling that your son is wish you.

If you want to cry, do so, but cry because you're pleased he's with you. Not that he is gone. By all means make a memorial for them, a nice gravesite, or a cross on the side of the road. A special place in your house, where it reminds you of him, honours him, makes you feel he is near. Do these things for you. Not for your son. If you made a particular spot where you feel comfortable that your son can visit you, then he will be there when you want him to be. But you don't have to keep going back to a particular spot to be with him. Your son is safe in the afterlife. The Afterlife is the energy that is all around you. And any time you need him to be, he will be with you, beside you, sharing as much as possible with you. Be aware of and embrace the feeling. Follow the advice on my web site on spirit contact (www.philg.net.au), and learn how to verify that he really is with you.

So for June, and all those mourning the loss or tragic passing of someone special, someone dear, trust they are wherever you need them to be, whenever you need them, and feel their presence, love and tears. Take care. Phil G

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

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