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Phil's background

Wed, 10 Mar 2010 08:49:02 +1100

I've been asked to share a little about me, so here goes. Apart from the obvious spiritual information and accidental discovery, I'm married (had our 30th anniversary in January this year), with one amazing son who's just left high school and running a really successful video production business (he hopes to direct movies one day, and has already won a few short film awards). We have two dogs, one's a 12 year old sausage dog, and the other we saved from the pound, looks a little mangy but my wife loves him!

I grew up in Sydney, Australia, and have been in management pretty much all my life. Moved to Melbourne, Australia, to be with my (now) wife. I used to write songs and hoped one day to be a big star! But that didn't happen. (Although it did lead me to my wife, so that was worthwhile). I originally wanted to become a minister with the Uniting Church (used to be Methodist), but something inside me led me to feel there was more, and more explanation, than what I was hearing in the initial stages of teaching. Perhaps it was a prelude of things to come.

I still work, as a part-time manager. I'd love to do spiritual work full-time, but the dollars just don't add up. I genuinely have spent far more than I've made promoting my simple technique. I made a committment to 'my guys' that I'd keep spending a small amount each week (advertising) regardless of whether I made money or not, and that's what I still do.

I do receive a lot of complimentary feedback about the site, my method, and my books and CD. I deliberately don't put lots of testimonial bits on the web site. I know other places do lots of that, but I'm just not that, well, I just don't believe in blowing my own trumpet that much. If I can just indulge a little though. I had this lovely email a few days ago about my book, which I'll share with you, in case you're thinking of buying it:

"Phil, Thank you, I am excited to get the book and cd... I am reading "Soul Matters" now; and I absolutely love it. Its an easy read and so easy to understand. I had to get it away from my husband first though! He picked it up and I thought I'd never get it back!! He said it grabs you right off the bat. He was right. Thank you again." [M. Spokane USA]

So there you go. I really enjoy helping from people. Whether it's about spiritual contact and comforting the grieving, or helping people with their careers, or more recently, offering words of encouragement, I really enjoy it. Take care, Phil G.

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CD's back in stock

Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:12:20 +1100

The CD "Contacting the Afterlife" is back in stock again. We've ordered stacks this time, so we shouldn't run our for a while. Also, we've now added iTunes UK, so it's available on many download music sites. To help you find it, just search "Afterlife Phil G" on music sites.

Also, had some queries about how to find the site easily, when sharing with friends. We don't quite understand why, but about 12 months ago, Goggle starting give top spot to the term "Afterlife" and "Phil G" , so that's why we've included that phrase. So if you tell friends to search that term (Afterlife Phil G), they'll find thousands of references to the site, articles and comments, that will hopefully help and comfort those grieving the loss of a loved one.

-Phil

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Message for Haiti

Sat, 20 Feb 2010 16:03:39 +1100

Had an email today from the UK, someone telling me that apparently they HAVE just re-done Michael Jackson's "We are the World" song for Haiti. Thanks for sharing that. I don't really follow the lives of the rich and famous, so I tend not to be aware of some of these things.

For those who are interested the article on Michael Jackson is here , published early January 2010, and in it, he shares (during a 'coversation' I had with him early January, 2010) his wish that the song could be re-used today. So I was delighted to hear he's got his wish!! -Phil

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Hearing a voice in a teddy...

Wed, 03 Feb 2010 20:05:25 +1100

I wanted to share a question from D. [UK] that I thought might help people: "My mum passed recently.... there was a teddy in the room where she died, and it told me something... not verbally, but mentally... that I should do for my Mum. Do you have other people experiencing things like that?"

Thanks for your message. Firstly, don't feel silly, as I'm sure you may have. I can't say I've actually heard what you describe has happened to anyone, but the situation is quite common. I describe it as 'having a reference point' (take a look at the YouTube video "CoffeeTime" on the website) - the reference point is for OUR benefit, not theirs. so in your case, the teddy must have been important enough, and you could imagine her connected to it, for you to hear HER voice in your head.

For privacy, I'll leave out detail, but I shared there would have been a strong reason, in her circumstances, for that to happen, and for her to come through.

Can I suggest two things. Firstly, I think older people would like to be remembered when they were younger, fitter. Find a photo of them, younger and remembered them like that. Secondly, read through my notes, articles on a 'reference point'. It's common with gravesites or crosses placed at roadside accidents. Or if a candle flickers, or something along those lines. These things happen so we have something to 'mentally' hang onto. But they can be anywhere.

If you know someone who's missing a loved one, the poem "Don't Grieve" has been a simple way to share this loving message with others, without causing offence. I have had large numbers of emails from people who were directed to that page, or given a printout of it, and thanked me for it's simple message. I'm not aware of anyone taking offence at it.

And for those wanting to progress from the odd 'thought' based around a certain object (such as the teddy bear), think about the "Contacting the Afterlife" CD or download. Take care. Phil G

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Career book...

Wed, 24 Feb 2010 10:06:06 +1100

I've received a few queries about my career book lately. Just a quick post to share my background:

Before my 'psychic' life, I had a very full management career, working for several companies, in various roles. Much of that time involved screening, hiring and training staff, and developing many of those into management. My style of teaching was somewhat different. I have attended several management training programs (company paid), and read dozens of books on getting ahead. I found so much of it was full of big words, theories and ideas. I developed my ideas into simple steps, that could quickly be learned, and put into practice. Everything from how to get a job for school leavers, through to standing out from the crowd to gain pay rises and promotions and move into management.

I've finally put all this in a book, called "Career Shortcuts". At 175 pages, it's not a long read, but it's packed with information. I've had some good feedback so far, so if you know anyone wanting to get a job, or advance their career, could you do them a favour and mention the book. I'm trying to get it published generally, but that's a long-winded exercise. It's available as a self-publication on the shop page if anyone's interest, and I reckon the benefit in pay will easily justify the small price for the book.

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I know I've been visited by my husband...

Sun, 31 Jan 2010 14:08:38 +1100

I received an interesting enquiry from J, [USA] which I have gained permission to share with you. I feel it may help others understand how simple the connection with loved ones in the afterlife is.

"My husband passed away last year. Before he died, he promised to let me know he is alright. We both believed in the Afterlife. After his death, I was in my bedroom, lying on the bed, missing him terribly. Suddenly, I had to look in the doorway, and I could see him, like Patrick appeared at the end of the movie "Ghost" - not a lot of color, white..... This went on for several minutes, I heard him say "I love you", but didn't see him say it. .... Other things have happened since.....I feel a hand on my back, very lightly, like a feather. I believe he is close by. Will I see him again? I talk to him the way Phil G says. I hear responses. But I want to see him again..."

I wanted to share this for a few reasons. Firstly, it is so much easier to feel the connection if you believe it's possible. You don't have to be gullible, or stupid, or naive. There's lots of details on my website to verify these things really happen, but if you're constantly wanting proof, they get tired and annoyed at that game. Believe it's possible makes it so much easier.

Secondly, different people feel the connection in different ways. Some people SEE the image, others FEEL it. Others just hear the VOICE in their minds. J makes the comment she heard his voice but didn't see him say it. I explained to her, and want to share with you also, that I believe the image, when we see it, is not actually where they are, but they are projecting it in our minds. That's why you didn't see him say the words, yet you 'felt' or 'heard' the words in your mind.

Let me explain. If you can, walk around outside for a few moments, then go back inside, and go into a very dark place, such as a broom cupboard, shut the door so it's completely dark. You SEE something. But it's not really there, because it's completely dard. It's your eyes, your mind, interpreting what you've seen, and recreating a picture your mind THINKS is there. That's how I believe it is.

For example, I did a reading some time back, in a house with an extremely large dining area which was part of the kitchen. The lady I was helping was sitting in a seat on the far right of me. I was on a seat in the middle of one of the walls, and to my far left was a single seat. The distance between these three seats was around 3 metres from me, and around 5-6 metres between the lady, and the empty seat opposite her. As I spoke, I was unaware that I kept looking briefly at the empty chair. Towards the end, the lady had a smile on her face, and said to me: "Do you mind if I ask why you keep looking at the empty chair when you talk about my mother?" I laughed, explained I didn't realise I was, but I just popped out the answer: "I feel that's where she is".

She smiled, saying that's where her Mum used to sit. I asked why they sat so far apart, and she said that's just the way it was. Now, I don't really feel that's where she WAS, but she placed the image of her, in my mind, in that chair for her daughter's benefit - so she knew. I tell you this, because I often have emails from people expecting someone to be in the same place each time. A common example is when people go to a gravesite, feel or 'see' the image of a loved one, and think they have to go back there all the time to see or feel them. You don't. They just do that because it's what YOU can accept at the time. But they can be anywhere.

The third thing I want to explain, is that so often, once you are aware of the connection, the initial method seems to disappear. I've shared examples of this before, but, for example, you think of a loved one, and a candle blows out, so you only accept that as a sign, and get upset because the candle doesn't blow out again. Once they have your attention, accept it. Prove it the way I say (it's in my articles, on the website, in my YouTube videos and in my books and CD - 'Goggle' "Afterlife Phil G" to find stuff), and accept they're with you.

It doesn't take long to know when they're around. It feels different. Once you do this a few times, you know the difference. If you want help doing this, the quickest way is to use my CD, available on the shop page as CD, or download from iTunes and heaps of other music sites.

Cheers,

Phil G

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Can famous people in the Afterlife contact ordinary people?

Mon, 25 Jan 2010 14:24:29 +1100

Since starting to post some of the 'conversations' I've had with famous people, I've had a number of enquiries from people who thought they were going crazy, thinking someone famous had contact them.

I've answered each one individually, as I understand this is not something most people would be comfortable with sharing on my website. However, it is common enough that I felt the need to address it here, for the undoubted larger number of people who have had these experiences, and may not wish to say so.

If I can advise from my own perspective. If you read through my site, I don't believe I had a psychic ability, or knowledge of it, prior to 2002. The whole process was an accident. One that I've come to realise is of enormous benefit to people: Experts can't easily understand how to convey the process, in SMIPLE terms, and tend to complicate it was too much for everyday people. Plus, I have found, there's a huge number of ordinary people, who aren't whackos, who want, or suspect a loved one is around, from time to time, and want to understand, in simple terms, how to know.

In my case, I had a number of visits from famous people early on (2002-2003). I can't tell you how insane my wife thought I was!!! But my method of verifying it is the same I teach everyone, for any visit. You ask for something you don't know, or something you've forgotten. I talk about this in the website, and in great detail in my books and CD, so I won't bore you with it here.

The difference between a family member, a someone famous, is I'd suggest you ONLY ask for something you don't know. In the same way I share how to recognise the brief images, feelings, words etc, you do the same thing. Often, you'll feel or glimpse an image, momentarily, that may appear to be unrelated to the person you feel you're talking to. Trust it, and check it later.

Can you ask for who you want? I think so. I do personally. I haven't had any readers say they have, but I would presume you can ask, as long as it not to be annoying! Mostly, it's a feeling someone's there, and often coupled with an understanding of who it is. For example, a famous singer may present with an image of a song in your mind. Just take it to the next step and ask for something to confirm it. Once you get that, go on the internet, and find that piece of information. If you can match it, without previously having known about it, then that's your proof that the rest of the encounter was real.

Phil G.

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Can Dogs Communicate After Death?

Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:40:29 +1100

A question from England: Could you please tell me wether dogs are able to communicate after death? I had my dog put to sleep and am grieving terribly.

Yes, they are. I know that might sound strange, and I haven't read much about it, other than apparently there are 'pet psychics' although I don't think there's any particular extra talent involved.

Can I just briefly give you some background so you understand why I say this, and not just give you a simple answer. If you've looked over the website, you'll know I only started getting this around 2002, and only helped others after 2005. A couple of years ago, I was doing a reading for someone, which wasn't going too well, when the reason became obvious. This person didn't care who came through and was rather disinterested. All of a sudden, I felt a sharp pain in my side, and I felt like I had to roll onto the floor. I also felt like I couldn't 'talk' properly. It was a very odd feeling. I asked this person if he knew anyone who had been shot. He didn't. Then I started to get a repeat of the action (over and over), but it didn't feel like I was standing up. It felt like I was on all 4's, then fell over. As soon as I said this, he looked totally stunned. His dog when missing about a year earlier, and they never found it. The neighbour didn't like the dog, and they always though he cold have shot the dog (it was a farm community). As soon as he told me this, it all made sense.

I've since had things come through. My own dogs have shown themselves a few times - not in quite so obvious a way, but things like, one who died almost 20 years ago, we still from time to time find an odd 'hair' from her - she had a very distinctive, very unusual white long hair that went to half thickness half way along the strand of hair - we find them, probably every couple of years, in odd places.

I haven't actually done this personally the way I'm going to describe, but I'm sure it will work. Occasionally, when I think of one dog in particular, I can almost talk to her, but I don't hear a voice as much as feelings back. So let's try this, and let me know how you get on.

Have a look at the CoffeeTime video (on the website). It talks about setting up a reference point. Instead of coffee, recreate a realistic situation where you feel your dog could be. For example, did you watch TV and sit together? Or something like that. What you do is not important, just do something that would be 'normal'. Then, just as you would have previously, talk. Sometimes you talk to pets, other times you 'think' to them, if you know what I mean. Do that. Ask the questions you want to know. Just carry on, a one-way conversation, as you probably have done countless times before.

The difference is that now you want something back. What would you have got back before? A soft groan? A stretching of the legs. A wagging tail? Even though you may not believe it, expect something like that back. obviously, you could easily be making it up, or imagining it. Ignore that problem. Just do it. You could EASILY imagine the response to talking, or stroking your dog. Do it, and expect the response.

Now, the difference between imagining, and proving it's real, is just as I say on the video: Ask for something to verify you weren't imagining it. Here's where it makes no difference if it's a person, or the person speaks a different language, or it's a pet. Regardless, you can still get an image, feeling or sound that isn't necessarily 'speech'. From here, thank them for that, and then let it go. Over the course of the next few hours or days, if not already, you will come across a situation that will match, or make sense with what you got.

At this point, it's easy to dismiss it as pure coincidence. Fine. Do it again. After a few coincidences, you'll slowly realise it's very unlikely it COULD just be coincidence. From here, it's very easy to start to recognise and feel the difference between your own thoughts, and those that just 'pop in out of the blue' into your mind. And you won't need verification. You'll just 'know'.

I'm quite sure that will work, but let me know. Give it a few months. When you're very distressed, it's harder to do. So just take your time, and relax. I'm sure you'll have success. I may post this on the blog and invite others to try the same idea, and see if others can connect to their pets who have passed away. SHARE

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Enjoying helping

Tue, 05 Jan 2010 09:43:59 +1100

Just a quick note to say I'm enjoying doing readings again, and thanks to all for the positive comments. Doing shorter readings is helping me cope with demand, and I actually find it far more enjoyable, and less 'taxing' on me. Although I haven't done seminars for a while, it's similar to what I did then, and I enjoyed that emmensely at the time.

- Phil G.

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I dreamt my Nan said she was having a great time. I don't know what to make of it.

Mon, 04 Jan 2010 14:48:56 +1100

From Jess [England]: "My nan passed away recently and last night I had a dream that I called her, and she told me she was having a great time, and loved me. I don't know what to make of it."

This is a common question, and my initial answer is that she's visited you, but that's too simple and easy to say.

I believe that if you've had a 'visit' in a dream, it is very easy to remember the dream, in detail, days or even months later, because I think they can 'replay' the image in our mind, as opposed to a dream, where often it's a struggle to remember, or to remember detail, or to make sense of it.

So on that level I'd assume it's a visit.

But I want you to go further. I do explain this on the web site and in various articles, and in my videos, but I'll share it again here.

Either next time it happens, the following morning, or if you put aside a few minutes, quietly, to think about her, and recall a fond memory, or moment, and then simply say to her, out loud or in your mind, "If I'm not imagining it, tell me something I've forgotten, or something I don't know." Within 5 seconds, you'll get a very brief flash. Image, thought, sound, word, feeling. It will be momentary (to start with), come out of the blue, not be related to anything you're currently thinking about, as if the thought or sound popped into your head form out of the blue.

Thank her, and let it go.

Over the course of the next few hours or days, if not already, it will make sense. That's your confirmation. I share lots of examples, including from my own experience, in my book. Most don't believe it at first, so: Do it again. You'll find after a few times, the coincidences just can't be explained any other way.

I'm presuming you either didn't get a chance to say goodbye, or it wasn't possible for you to talk to her. That's why she's given you the chance to 'call her' would be my guess about the situation. If you do want to follow this up more, look over the YouTube videos linked from my website and have a think about the book (Soul Matters) or the CD "Contacting the Afterlife' - both of which will help you if you want to go further.

Take care, Phil

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If you'd like a reading...

Wed, 30 Dec 2009 16:31:18 +1100

There's been a lot of interest in my doing readings again.

To briefly explain, I stopped doing readings because it was taking up too much time, and I felt guilty making money from people. But I've had so many requests from all parts of the globe, especially from those who know someone for whom I've already done a reading, that I've decided to restart them, but as a more concise offering, meaning it's cheaper, and I can help more people. I'd much prefer people enjoy the magic of their own connection with loved ones who have passed away, and there is much material available on my website to help, but for those wanting readings, I offer a cheaper, shorter service.

Conducting readings is somewhat 'scary' for me. If you've read my background, I didn't know anything about being psychic prior to 2002, and it was with much reluctance I started in 2005. I know my style is probably different to a lot of others who do readings. I don't claim to be great, and I've long-ago given up trying to 'prove' I'm any good. Instead, I'm confortable doing what I can do, and if that doesn't suit, then we provide a refund so no-one should feel disadvantaged.

A few people have asked about Suicide or Murder instances

I share whatever I get, and type it as I think of the questions, and hear or feel the answers. If that involves wanting to know final moments or what was going on in their minds at the time, I share what comes through. I have been through many instances of unfortunate circumstances, often not understanding what the situation is, but what I'm feeling, and to many, my description matches what the circumstances would have been. But more importantly, I share answers, the reasons. I do so with great care and compassion. I understand these matters are difficult, but I share from the heart. Almost always, heartening words come through.

If you are thinking about a reading, I suggest you look at my style as shown in the longer 'famous spirits' readings. And then, what I suggest, is putting aside a few minutes, imagine the person you miss is beside you, in real life, and you had the chance to tell them things, or ask them things. About life now, as it was, or as it will turn out. Then write those questions down. And if you'd like the answers to those, I'm happy to assist you.

Reading requests are welcome from any country, and are provided by email. More information about readings is available here.

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Christmas wishes

Sun, 27 Dec 2009 17:56:32 +1100

Now it's almost the holiday season, I thought it appropriate to share a few things.

Firstly, thank you to those who have offered kind words and thank yous. I do genuinely hope what I do helps people, both in overcoming some of their grief, but in also knowing loved ones are still around, and care about us.

I had a lovely letter from the USA this week from someone I have shared some 'readings' with from their son. I won't compromise their privacy, other than to share that whilst I had not done readings for a while, they were pleased I was now doing short readings, and this provided comfort to them.

I must admit, in my desire to help people gain their own connection, I sometimes forget the comfort that some short messages and confirmations from loved ones can bring. I have found since reintroducing 'short readings', it's been a way for people to gain additional comfort without large expense for you, or a large time commitment for me. If there is anyone else wondering, I don't mind doing more than one reading, if it helps. My only concern is that you don't live your life, locked into the 'need' to constantly hear from loved ones, or to constantly 'check' with them in order to live you life. I'm sure we're supposed to live our lives to the full, whatever that entails, good or bad. But if you need to hear from loved ones from time to time, I'm happy to do these readings. Just please be aware I fit them in around work, and family committments, and it sometimes takes me a little while to do them.

I've had a lot of orders for the CD since we put it on our shop page. I do know of some who have had some difficultity ordering from the supplier (LuLu) or they haven't wanted to download from one of the music sites. We've just ordered a batch of CD's which should be in stock soon, so that we can ship them more quickly.

Just quickly, I'm often asked if our departure (death) is all planned. As in, is everything pre-planned? I personally don't believe so, but that can be shown things as they will be if we don't change things. I was thinking about this question in light of a tragic car accident yesterday in Sydney (Australia), where a little boy was needlessly killed. I 'asked' my 'guys' on 'the other side' about this, and I got this answer back:

There are times when things happen for a reason. That reason may be difficult to understand at the time, but it dawns on us as time goes on. But often, things just happen. Accidents, freak things, for no reason. It wasn't 'planned', there wasn't some master plan in action. But those on the other side, and those still with us, help us to deal with life as it's presented to us. I was told we mustn't always 'search for an answer' to tragedy, but rather accept it, talk to those we miss, feel them around us, and acknwledge the little things they do to show they are around, without always wanting a great big obvious 'sign'. I think there is, for some, a feeling of having no control over life, but I don't believe that's right. I believe we are hear to learn, embrace, experience all life has to offer, both good or bad, and to share with others dealing with loss, that their loved ones are still with them.

Thank you so much to those who share my message and website with others. We only advertise in USA, Britain, and Australia, yet many enquiries and orders come from many other countries through sharing by a friend. If you know of someone grieving the loss of a loved one, and you think this information may help them, why not email them, phone them, or share on face book, this site? I appreciate your sharing, as advertising is terribly expensive, and I know those you share with, appreciate the thought so very much.

Finally, I was asked by a friend about my 'name'. If you're interested, when I first started sharing my unexplained 'talent' in 2005, my family were very concerned everyone would think I was weird. Well, thankfully, that hasn't happened much. But to respect their wishes, I used the initial G. When we started looking into search engines, the only reference that brought the site up first go, was to include the terms "Afterlife" and "Phil G". So that's why we put the words together on a lot of things, including the CD etc. I'm not one for catchy names and showbusiness, but that's how it happened, and we still use it because it helps people find the site. You can tell your friends to 'Goggle' the term "Afterlife Phil G" to find articles and references to my materials on this, and other websites.

Take care over the holiday break, and whatever your believe in religion, or lack of it, let the spirit of Christmas, the love and sharing and reaching out to others, carry you over the coming year. Take care. Phil.

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A request for guidance in developing psychic ability..

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 09:39:40 +1100

I recently had an enquiry from someone wanting to know if I could help them develop their own psychic skills.

It's not something I've really done before, but then, in a sense, I've been helping people for a few years discover that everyone has some psychic ability. Certainly, the starting point I would recommend for anyone, would be the CD/Download "Contacting The Afterlife"which I did so I could effectively be in your ears and sharing how to do this.

But this person has not had anyone close to them, pass away. Yet they have had feelings, or warnings, and have a 'need' to help people, to assist people and share what she's getting. I spent some time on the phone with her, sharing my humble experience of how to 'grow' her ability. In particular, I share my strong belief that you don't need elaborate props and tools - they're all just a support for when you're getting started. You need to trust what you're getting. I also warned her that when helping people, don't bring bad news through in a negative way. Despite my belief that you CAN see the future, I strongly believe it is not set it stone, and is only a vision of the future as it will be if you don't change. EXACTLY as depicted in the trilogy "Back To The Future" with Michael J Fox.

I have a very simplistic approach to all this. I have read a lot of books over the past few years, but only in trying to understand what I did. I don't think you can 'learn' how to be psychic in a strict sense, rather you can gain insight by reading material, that will enable you to become aware of your own, natural, inbuilt talents, albeit at an early stage.

If anyone would like assistance to go beyond simply contacting family and friends, with a view to helping others, let me know and I'll think about how I could do that. Or perhaps you could suggest.

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One less person at Christmas. How do I cope?

Mon, 14 Dec 2009 07:54:37 +1100

Around this time of year, I get many enquiries from people who have lost somene special, and Christmas seems to be so much emptier without them. Here's my answer for those in this situation at this traditionally happy time of year:

I know people are at different stages of believing, or recognizing, that loved ones who have passed away are still with you. Regardless of where you're at, here's my advice. Carry on as normal. Do everything you would normally do. Put the tree up, decorate the house, invite family over, or whatever you used to do. Do the same. Embrace the joy of having this missing person, in your thoughts and lives this Christmas.

This isn't to say you are in denial. No. This is to share their life with you. Set a spot at the table. If family think you're crazy, tell them it's to honor them, to recognize the importance of this person in your/ the family's life. For you, it's so you have a reference point. So you can imagine this special person is actually there.

If you want to know precisely how to know they're there, consider the CD or Download "Contacting the Afterlife" on the shop page. If you're not to that stage, the carry on over the Christmas dinner or lunch as if this person is actually with you. Pretend they're with you as you open presents. In everything you do at this special time of year, include them, in your thoughts, as if they're there.

Sometime during this season, you will get something. A sign. An image, thought, word, feeling, will pop into your mind that will cause you to think for just a moment, that maybe it's real. Hold on to that thought. Don't question it. Just accept it.

Bit by bit, you will come to realise, as I did and share in my book "Soul Matters", that you're not imagining it. And it changes how you feel about their loss. You feel happier, more content, more able to carry on. Not the same. No. It's not the same, but it does help and comfort.

Christmas Blessings and Best wishes. Phil G.

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I think I've had 'a sign'. How do I ask him to be around?

Mon, 07 Dec 2009 16:21:40 +1100

I've received a few questions lately from those who have lost a loved one unexpectedly, suspect they're around, but want to know they're around. An example was from Chicago, USA, from a young woman who lost her partner whilst he was overseas. Totally close, gone too soon, she 'knew', as did the children, that something was very wrong the day he passed.

The advice I gave her, and others in that situation, is firstly, to disregard others who may think you're being foolish to think you are being contacted. Secondly, accept that they are around, and 'talk' to them as if they are beside you. Use my 'coffeetime video' or I deal with how to do this in detail in both my books, and especially in my CD (see shop page) . If you feel they are around, or you've had a sign, don't start 'looking' for the signs, rather, assume they are with you. Tell the children they are around. Talk to them as if they are with you.

What you will find if you do this, if not straight away, certainly gradually over coming weeks, you will get the feeling you're not alone, and as I describe, as them to share proof they are around. You will find after a while, that you 'know' the difference between your own thoughts, and those that come 'out of the blue' and are inconsistent with your own thoughts at the time.

But the starting point, is to just start, without expecting too much. I always caution about how others will react, so I generally suggest you calmly do this by yourself. Most will tell you to 'let them go' and get on with your life. But as I told this young lady, you can still get on with your life, but stay in contact, be protected, guided, cared for, by your love that has passed away. That's not 'holding on' to the past. It's showing how much you care, and how much they meant to you.

In particular, don't be afraid to share with the children. You don't have to make a big deal about it, or make it all mystic or scary. You can just share that they are around, protecting them. Encourage them to 'talk' with their father. Children often find this easier to do than adults. I taught my own son to do this when he was 12 (I share the story in my book "Soul Matters'), and he has proven many times that his 'pop' (grandfather) is around, and looking after him.

-Phil

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New Site

Sun, 06 Dec 2009 09:55:40 +1100

If you haven't taken a look at the website for a while, my son has done a great job of making it look better, and easier to navigate. - Phil

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Shop Cart correction

Sun, 29 Nov 2009 17:00:16 +1100

Our apologies for an error in the shopping cart. the 'post and handling option' was adding an additional $5 to each product.

This has now been corrected, and anyone affected will have the $5 error reversed immediately. If anyone notices any errors on the site, please inform us here. Thanks.

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I Saw His Ghost Walking Down The Hall - Answers From Phil G

Thu, 12 Nov 2009 09:59:16 +1100

Angela [USA]: When I was 13, my Mom's Boyfriend died... I saw part of a man's leg walking past my room. I got up, looked down the hall and saw my Mum's door wide open (she always closes it). When I reached the door, it slammed shut in my face. I want to see him again, I miss him, but I don't live there any more.

Interesting you had such a vivid image. Very few are able to have that clarity. Can I suggest, to keep things in context, that I personally believe the image was/is in YOUR MIND, and not actually in front of you. Stay with me, because I'm hoping this will help you reconnect.

Most people who have some psychic ability get images or feelings of some kind, and it's usually in their mind. On that basis, they "see" something. In my own case, I often "see"people, but although they're there, I feel they're being projected there. For example, when my father passed away, at his funeral, part of the ceremony was an official section because of his involvement in World War 2, and as they were doing that, I could clearly see, probably 100 or more, men in uniform saluting him as my Dad stood beside the coffin. I don't feel they were standing as I "saw" them, but that's the way my Dad wanted to show me who was there, and how they were honoring him.

Because I know "they" can be anywhere, I am happy to occasionally (rarely in my Dad's case) have people around, without having to be at the place I first had the experience. So although I "saw" my Dad at the funeral place, I don't need to be back there to see him again. So in your case, I personally feel you were seeing the image of him walking down the hall (to get your attention which he did rather spectacularly) and then slam the door to really cement the experience. I don't doubt at all that could have happened. I have heard many stories of equally improbably things happening. But the key here is to know you were being SHOWN his image, and he doesn't have to be just where you first saw him.

So was he nice, kind to you? You weren't scared? You say you miss him.

Have you watched the YouTube video yet ("CoffeeTime" ) Try that, and when you get to the "talking" bit, think back to the times you had with him, the tell him the things you'd like to say.

For example, if I was to ask you to spend 10 minutes emailing me all the things you like about him, why you'd like him around again, you could probably find a few nice things, right? Well, do that for him. Do this NOW. Talk (out loud or in your head) and occasionally, pause, not necessarily expecting anything, but just be aware or "feel" things.

You probably won't get a strong image like last time (otherwise I think you would have had another experience like it before now) so you're probably "out of practice’" so-to-speak). So expect little things, feelings, images. It's the FIRST step.

Take care, Phil

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Did Michael Jackson Have A Reason To Die?

Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:57:46 +1100

June [NY, USA] asks "Did Michael Jackson have a reason to die. Some people think there is a reason for death. Do you believe that?"

"I'll just post a short answer for the moment to this question: Sometimes, I personally struggle to find a reason, but afterwards, it often becomes apparent to everyone, regardless of how upsetting or unexpected or tragic the initial circumstances can be. I know that doesn't always apply, but if often does.

From time to time I have had people in the public eye who come to me after passing. Always, I have either kept it private, or tried to share it if possible with those it applies to. I will share my own thoughts, but I have been privileged to have had several visits from Michael since his passing. I was unable to reach his family, but recently, he visited saying it was alright to share some information publicly. I am in the process of recording several 'interviews' with him (I know that sound absurd, but it's the only way I can describe what this is like!) and will work with him to ensure I only share what he is willing to share, with utmost discretion and compassion. The rest will only be for his family if I ever get the opportunity to share it with them.

I feel his Grandmother has always been concerned about Michael, of being taken advantage of, of being worked too hard. She was concerned that his planned concert block was going to be an enormous strain on him, and whilst he was overwhelmed with excitement and gratitude that so many people wanted to see him again, the demands to deliver such a high standard, a high expectation over so many nights, was in itself overwhelming.

I feel that the criticism that has been placed at him over the years in the media, the unkind remarks, and the lack of album success would be indicative of how the world would judge him over his fading years. As unfortunate as his death was, and as untimely as it was, 'they' (those on 'the other side') I feel have taken him 'on a high' so to speak, at a point where he leaves virtually at the peak of his career, rather than at the end of a long decline.

I noticed on the day of his death, our local media initially used some negative comments regarding his personal life within the context of explaining his death, but this evaporated within hours as the media realized the greater public did not want to hear about or know about the negative. Much like the tragic death of Princess Diana. At the time, the press had been cruel to her, unforgiving, yet within hours, the media, indeed, the entire Royal Family, were stunned at the public response, and any negative talk disappeared, and has remained virtually unmentioned ever since that day. I think this is what has happened, and will continue to happen with Michael.

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Coming To Grips With Spirit Contact

Wed, 28 Oct 2009 09:56:12 +1100

Today's enquiry to Phil's web site on spirit contact comes from England, from a lady who has followed-up from previous correspondence regarding wanting contact, or to 'know of' contact, from her mother, who she missed deeply. She has tried to 'connect' but feels she isn't getting anything.

"I've had a few people who have struggled with this. Perhaps some don't get it as clearly, or as easily. My secretary is one, but she now gets little hints or feelings, and is content with that, so perhaps I'll talk from her perspective, and how I helped her reach that point. I generally start by suggesting not to try too hard. If we leave this topic for a moment, and think about talent shows on TV - the ones who try really hard to do a good job generally fail, because it's all too rigid and planned. The ones who generally do better are the ones who just have fun and get on with it without thinking. But in your case, rather than suggest don't try too hard, as ridiculous as this sounds, I want you to stop trying completely! Please keep reading. I’m not giving up on you!

So, stop trying completely. I think the thing with some people is they don't easily 'hear' things, then expect too much, and get nothing at all. So let’s start by not trying to get anything back at all.

Can you recreate the situation, either physically, or in your mind, of a time when she was with you, and you were talking about THE FAMILY. It may be a recent experience, or one from many years ago, perhaps when your first child arrived and she was giving you advice. It could be anything, but it needs to be a comforting situation, where YOUR TALKED TO HER, and SHE WAS CARING IN HER RESPONSES TO YOU. Are you with me on this? Perhaps a time when she was giving you motherly advice. Now I want you to do whatever it takes to completely imagine that situation is real, now, today.

IF you can't create the physical environment, create it in your mind. Sit in your favourite chair or spot, and imagine you are in that spot. Now think about the TYPE of conversation you had back then. Either talk to her about current events in the same way you did then, or reminisce about the actual type of things you talked about then. Don’t stress about trying to remember everything, I just want you to feel in that environment. Now here's where I need you to trust me for a moment. Imagine, pretend, or believe that she’s beside you as you have these thoughts. Preferably have your eyes closed so you can blank out the world. Be relaxed, feel relaxed, don't ask for anything or expect anything, or try and get anything. Just make this a ONE WAY event. I don't want you to try and think about what she replied, or what she would reply now. Just talk in your head (or out loud) from YOUR perspective, and feel she's around, but don't worry about getting anything. Do this for as long as you can. At no point should you try and 'get something' from her.

Just keep this a totally one-way event. It's just you talking to her. When you run out of things to say, pause while you think of something else to say. And then continue. This could be 5 minutes or an hour, it doesn't matter. The key point here is to talk until you can't think of anything else, PAUSE, and then talk some more. Let me explain why I'm suggesting this, but DON'T try and get what I'm going to tell you – just let it happen. You're expecting too much or the wrong thing, either way, she can't connect to you. That doesn't mean she's not there. I'm being told to suggest you watch the film "Just like Heaven" if you haven't already. There's a scene in there were the girl's sister is totally unaware, and unbelieving, that her sister's spirit is in the room, yet the little girl sets another place at the table, because the little girl can see her. I think it will help you understand this point, and my guys are strongly suggesting you watch this movie. So just because you don't feel her there, doesn't mean she isn't, or that she's not trying to contact you. And most of all, don't get annoyed at her for not contacting you or trying hard enough!!

As you run out of things to say, the pause will allow her to move a 'feeling' to you. Sort of, if you can imagine, you have this one-way shower of words and thoughts and love going over to her, sitting or standing in that spot you imagine in your mind, and when you stop for a moment, she can just gently bounce the love and feelings BACK to you. If you can imagine those thoughts and feelings like a soft breeze, and when it comes back, you feel the slightest flutter on your skin, or shiver, or 'knowing' that she's there. It will probably be very faint, and I DON'T WANT YOU TO WAIT FOR IT, ASK FOR IT, OR EVEN EXPECT IT. I just want you to be aware it could happen, but it doesn't matter if it doesn't.

A little like my son when he was younger. He was terrible at catching a ball. We spent hours throwing the ball to each other. He'd throw it to me, I'd catch it, and I'd gently throw it back, and he'd try to catch it, but it just never seemed to connect. Sometimes it would go right over his head, and he had no idea it was there. Other times, he reached to catch it and it would go straight through his hands without even touching! One day, I had the idea that he should stop trying to catch it, and just have fun BEING with me in the backyard, and he slowly started to catch the ball because he wasn't concentrating on it. Nothing changed, but when he stopped trying, he caught it.

So that's why I'm suggesting to relax, talk, and keep talking and pause when you can't think of anything else to say. And it's the fact your trying to think of the next topic or thing to say that will stop you from trying to 'listen' or 'feel' the reply in the gap or pause – and that's why I want you to keep thinking of something to say, rather than waiting for "the sign". Does that make sense? After all that, if you get nothing, it doesn't matter.

Re do this again at another time. But always do it with love, because you want to SHARE with her, not because you WANT something from her. That's really important. It may take one go, or it may take 6 months. It doesn't matter. Now, when you DO think you get something, don't smother it! Don’t grasp for more, more signs, more feelings. Just accept whatever small thing you get, and then do the exercise again. I know it's frustrating for you, but in your case, I think it will take a while, just be patient, and once you 'get it', it becomes SO EASY. I know this from those who have written back to me. Let me know how you get on. Phil"

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Reincarnation. Does it interfere with being able to contact those in the Afterlife?

Wed, 30 Sep 2009 08:53:51 +1000

From Gloria [Cincinnati, USA]: Thanks for all the help you have been in during my recent transition in becoming aware of my contact with someone who has passed. I am beginning to hear from my friend, sometimes in words, and I wanted to let you know I think you must be right about the fact that it is not necessary for our dead friends to "go to the light" and disappear from our lives.

Here is my reasoning. Sometimes I ask my friend about something that is going to happen; I'm asking for a little guidance. His response tends to be, "It already has happened." That's interesting. He does not experience time as I do, because these events have not happen for me yet, but they have for him. Which means that he lives outside of time as I know it.

I'm not entirely sure how it works, but perhaps he experiences all events on my timeline simultaneously.... But he is not subject to time himself. That's why I think it unlikely that he will have to "go to the light" at some time in the future. I am the one with the future; everything is all-present for him. There may be times of my life when it is more critical that I have contact with him, but he already is in the light, just as everything else already "is" for him.

I had contact with a Hypnotherapist who said it was important for my friend to "go to the light" at some future time so he could be reincarnated. I'm not sure how to answer the questions about reincarnation, but I think the need to go to the light is inconsistent with my friend's experience of time--which is really only my experience of time. What is your information about the need to reincarnate? Could it interfere with our contacting someone who has passed?

HI Gloria, Nice to hear from you. Thanks for the kind words. Yes, I am totally convinced there is no need to 'go to the light'. You asked about my thoughts on if it interferes with contacting. I actually don't think that happens. I'm not sure where people's experiences of near-death, and seeing the light, fit into all this, but my feeling is the light they see is actually as they become unaware of the world around us and are becoming part of the energy around us, rather than 'going away' somewhere. If that's the case, then I think the concept of 'going to the light' comes from these reports of near-death.

I have mentioned it somewhere recently, but I had a lady that perfectly illustrates why I don't think it happens like that, and why I don't think it interferes. She was told by friends to 'Let her husband go' - and she did so, and hadn't felt he was around for about 5 years until I saw her. I know he was around at that time, because I shared an amusing story with her about planting bulbs upside down, which surprised her, because that's exactly what she had done - and of course, like me, they didn't grow. I explained to her that - why would I have thought of that, unless he had told me to say it? I explained that I felt he had 'left her' to honour her wishes.

She was deeply upset by this, and asked what she had to do to get him back. I assured her he was not angry or upset, and would be happy to be part of her life again. Some weeks later, she wanted to see me, and I dropped in on her. She explained in much detail how she knew her husband was indeed back in her life. So if they do 'go away' they can come back.

You mention reincarnation. I personally think, from my own logic, and some conversations with my mother, (passed), that they stay around, or are contactable, until there are no more people that need to be able to contact them or need their help. I would think that generally goes back about 70-100 years. So, generally speaking, I can contact my Grandfather, but I don't feel I could contact my Great-Great Grandfather. I have found exceptions to that on occasion, but I think generally that's the case.

I suppose the real message I'd like to leave with people who are reading this, is to know that loved ones who have passed away don't have to 'go away' to some place away from us. That they're contactable, around, willing to be with you, comfort you, and continue to share your joys and sorrows. More at www.philg.net.au

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Sharing Spirit Contact Experiences: My Dad Died On My Birthday

Wed, 23 Sep 2009 08:51:47 +1000

From England, I'd like to share these words:"My dad died several years ago on my birthday. For some time now I have been interested in the Afterlife and I am sure it exists.

I asked my dad to show me a sign if he could hear me. Later that day, I walked to my local shop and on the street I saw a load of "Cherry Lips" sweets. When I was small, my mother was in hospital and I had to stay with my aunt for a while. Every night on the way to the hospital my Dad would visit me and bring me a bag of "Cherry Lips". I didn't even like them but never told him as I didn't want to upset him.

I thought that this could be a coincidence, so when I got home I asked him to show me something else. I turned on the TV and there was a property programme on. The estate agent answered his phone with the name of the business - the name of the business was my Dad's name!

A few weeks later, I was driving down the road and I had a thought come into my mind that I would see something else from my Dad in print. Later that day, I bought the local paper, and there was an article showing old photos and there was one of the local cricket team dated 1956 (the year I was born) and sitting in the front row was my Dad!!!!

There was one other small thing that happened concerning my mum. She had to attend the hospital to see the consultant as she was having surgery. My sister took her for her appointment and they were sitting in the waiting room for quite some time. The receptionist called the next patient and called out my Dad's name. No one replied but my Mum was there, but my Dad had passed away ages ago and had never used that hospital. My mum thought it was a premonition that she wasn't going to survive the operation but I told her it was probably my dad trying to give her comfort.

Thanks for sharing your experience. If anyone reading this would like to share their experiences of contact from the Afterlife, or learn more, feel free to visit my site: philg.net.au

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Watching TV With His Deceased Wife? Normal Or Insane? More On Spirit Contact From Phil G

Wed, 16 Sep 2009 08:48:06 +1000

George [Iowa, USA] writes that since the loss of his wife, he often 'feels' she sits with him watching TV at night. He writes: "Am I going insane, or am I really feeling her spirit, and if so, how can I be sure?" It's quite common for people when they experience the loss of a loved one claim to feel the presence of their spirit near them, especially at favourite places or times.

Such as George who wrote to me about his recently departed wife. Their evenings would consist of sitting in front of the TV watching whatever is on. His sense of loss is naturally immense, but lessened somewhat by the feeling she is still around. The majority of the population will feel this, even if only momentarily, immediately following the loss of a close friend or family member. Have you ever been at a funeral, and you can just 'feel' a presence? Perhaps not clearly, or visions etc, but a sense you're not alone? Perhaps that's why even hardened sceptics, at funerals, can be heard to mutter a final goodbye, even if they don't believe in life after death. But if so, why talk to someone who's not there? If you are totally closed to the concept of spirit contact will dismiss my words as taking advantage of the weak minded. Believe what you will, I certainly won't change your mind. But if you have suffered the loss of a loved one, you know the feeling.

Life is such a short experience. I sometimes think it would be so much easier to cope with a loss, if we all had a date printed on our wrists so we'd know when our time was up. We could plan our lives so much better, and everyone else would be prepared for the worst. But yes, "life is like a box of chocolates - you never know what you're going to get.." Regardless of whether you've lost someone through accident, ill health, or foul play, makes no difference. At the funeral, you can feel their presence. As time goes on, you feel it less, and if you struggle with the concept of life after death, you will gradually let the feeling go. Or perhaps you will seek out those who claim to be able to talk to the dead. But even if you do, it's never enough, or they're never good enough. How can it be enough? You want them back, to share what's going on in your life, be part of your joys and sorrows, and help you make decisions. But you CAN do all this.

Revisit your thinking when your loved one passed away. You felt them near. WHAT DID YOU DO? You TALKED to them didn't you. You said a few words. Mentioned happy times, told them you loved them, wished they were still here, and more. So what happened? Did you almost imagine they were with you, beside you, hearing you, perhaps even imagine for a moment they were 'talking' back to you in your head? Could you 'see' them? In your mind, you could imagine they were standing near you, and your thoughts were totally on this image or feeling, to the point of blanking out all other thoughts and sounds around you? If that's the case, then you have already experienced spirit contact. The difference between what you've felt before and how to know it's real, is a simple matter of persevering, and finding a way to confirm it. So for George, who sits with his wife watching TV and wonders if it's real, I say: Talk to her as if she's with you. Just like you did at her funeral. Tell her what's going on in your life. Share.

You will 'feel' a 2-way conversation in your head as you do this. This is clearly shown in the films "Sleepless in Seattle" and "PS I love you". The only step left is to confirm. Just ask for something to show it's real. A thought, image, word, feeling, smell - something will pop into your head which will allow you to confirm it wasn't an accident, and over the next few hours or days, you will be presented with confirmation based on that thought. As you keep doing this, gradually feel the difference, in your mind, between your own thoughts and those that are coming into your head from 'no-where' - your departed loved one. It won't take too many attempts to recognize the difference.

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

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Spirit Contact: Believing It's Possible Is The First Step.

Thu, 20 Aug 2009 08:46:09 +1000

I want you, an ordinary person, who grieves the loss of a loved one, to understand how simple it is to connect with the Afterlife. But you will find it hard if you don't believe it's possible. And TV shows such as "The Ghost Whisperer" don't help you either!

On my Cd "Contacting The Afterlife - A Spoken Beginner's Guide" I start off with a track called "Accepting The Possibility". The reason I do that, is that if you are closed to the concept of being able to contact spirits or contact the afterlife, you will find it much harder to do, and make it much harder for those who are trying to come through to you to do so.

I believe anybody can recognize and verify the signs of contract from family and friends in the afterlife. I do not believe you need a special gift to be able to contact spirits from the Afterlife. Unlike many people around the world who are clairvoyants or spiritualists, - your family and friends who have passed away, that you miss, long for, grieve for, or want to know they're okay, are contactable by normal everyday people- just like you. I also believe that most people are able to experience spirit contact with the person they want to, and verify it.

I did a reading with a rather large family group a while ago and I brought through information for most people in the room. However, there was a man in the corner of the room, showing interest, but having no desire to participate. During a reading, I ask my guys on the other side for guidance, and I got a strong "don't bother with the man in the corner" feeling. At the end of the session, I always ask if there are any general questions.

Someone in the room asked what happens if you completely do not believe spirit contact is possible? I explained nicely that it's the right of every individual to believe things or not believe things. But I felt very much as if she was referring to the gentleman in the corner of the room. Not wanting to offend him, I explained my thoughts on everybody being entitled to their belief. But I went on to explain that I think it is a pity where a particular family member will go beyond this, and ridicule the rest of the family for the believing in contact with the spirit world. This is no different to whether somebody does or doesn't like football. Some people love it, some people hate it. But I think it is a shame when one person expects everyone else to share the same view.

So in the same way that I believe afterlife contact is possible, I also accept that some people don't believe it's possible. I only share my information with those who are interested. In my everyday circle of friends and acquaintances, I don't start talking to people all the time about afterlife contact, and expecting them all to believe it. I let them go on about their daily life, and some people know what I do and some people don't. Those who do know what I do, I leave to them to their thoughts unless someone actually asks me about it. I don't ram this down people's throats. So in the return, I would like to think people who don't believe this don't ram it down other people's throats either.

In this particular case, fortunately, the man in question, although he did not believe contact with the afterlife, he did leave the rest of the family open to their own thoughts and opinions. That's wonderful. Everyone can then reach their own conclusion. The problem with forcing your beliefs on others in the family, if you don't believe this is possible, is that you cut off your nose to spite your face. When that person crosses over to the other side and they suddenly realise that this is possible, they've already convinced their family it's not possible, and they can't come through.

Now I have actually had this happened a few times. I sometimes have spirits come through who are completely surprised that they're still around! They can see and hear what's going on, and they are aware their family is here, but they can't come through, because the family won't believe it. Now fortunately, in some of those cases I am then able to help them understand that it is possible and get them past that point. But generally it's quite difficult. And that's why I believe it's important to let people come to their own opinion

If you don't believe contact with the spirit world is possible, it makes it much harder for them to come through. You need too much proof. I find this when I do readings that those who are open-minded catch on to the things that do come through and are happy to accept them as proof. The problem is those who don't, always want more proof - it's never enough. If you watch the film "Ghost" you can see Patrick's frustration with trying to prove he's around Demi.

If somebody wants birthdays and you bring through birthdays, then a person who was negative and turned off by this will quite correctly be able to say it could be a lucky guess or a trick. And that's true, some people can do that. If it's down to favourite colours and foods, it still comes down to a possible lucky guess, or maybe you're priming the person for information. The problem is there's never enough proof. It's a bit like the person who would be as ridiculous as saying there is no such thing as electricity coming through the power point, and you want to prove it by sticking their finger in the socket. They do, they die. There will never be enough proof until you die.

I've been asked some times whether the TV show "The Ghost Whisperer" is what it's really like. I'm not saying to believe everything you see, particularly on TV. All I am saying is, you should be open-minded. I have a problem with a lot of TV shows and movies, who portray contact with the afterlife as something that it's not. There are those who are gifted who do get very clear specific information with very the images. The other thing I find with a show like "The Ghost Whisperer" is that it wrongly shows she stops and listens to large volumes of information with complete sentences. It generally doesn't happen like that, particularly for ordinary "non-psychic" people wanting to connect with family and friends for the first time.

For most people it's a burst of information. So what might take two or three sentences to come through in normal conversation can take a split-second: as an image or a thought for a feeling. That's why many spiritualists struggle at times to explain in words. That's important for you as a normal, non-psychic person who may not be terribly psychic to realise this.

A momentary burst of an image, a feeling or a couple of words. It comes through quickly and it's usually the first thing you think of when you ask for some information. I talk about this my book and on my CD and my other materials: So in my son's case when he first got some information through from my mother, he didn't get told he's being shown a picture of the wattle tree with the yellow fluffy balls of wattle, with his dad (me) standing in front of it. He got a split-second image of a tree with cotton wool balls on in - and a bit later, saw the cotton-wool as yellow, and I was the one who had to piece together the fact that he was seeing the wattle tree I had a picture of, with me standing in front of it.

The information that comes through to you will be brief, and will be over very quickly, it isn't really in full sentences. It's often in feelings. I'm bringing this up because most people who watch a TV show like that will think it comes through like that and it doesn't. It's almost like three sentences could be encapsulated in one brief feeling that you would have trouble explaining fully in words, but you know what it means. And that's what you're looking for, when they contact you. It's just this little rush of information which makes perfect sense to you even though it might be difficult for you to explain.

If you don't understand this, it's so easy to miss the signs of contact, because you get a little burst of information and then you think it couldn't possibly be right. Why would I have thought of that? But you did. And it's real. Use the information in my video and on my website, CDs, book to help you understand that family in the Afterlife can contact you. You don't have to be gullible, but just believe it. You don't even have to believe it's really happening. I just want you to believe that it's possible. Because if you do that, then you'll find things will start coming through. And my website explains how to verify it's real.

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

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Do We Have Emotional Needs When We Cross Over?

Wed, 15 Jul 2009 08:43:47 +1000

From Cincinnati, a reader asks this question on spirit contact: "Is it possible that those who have died have any emotional needs, like belonging or comfort or just to know someone loves them? Do they hold anger? Here, 'Afterlife Phil ' shares his insight and answer. More on spirit contact at afterlifephilg.com

Phil: Thanks for your questions about how we feel after we die. I think they want to be with us, help us, and guide us. I say this because I've just replied to someone who was almost involved with someone, but never quite got there, and now feels closer to this person than her actual husband, and she's quite frustrated by it all. But I don't think they want to be in a relationship like we picture it. I think it's simply a case of wanting to be with us, or help us.

Find a purpose in life was my advice to her, and perhaps even let the person coming through from the other side to help her find that purpose. I know several who have done this, and found much joy and purpose in life, still connected with their special person who has crossed over, but with a purpose for their own lives.

They absolutely have emotion, but I'm not sure it's emotional needs. It's like the end line in the film "Ghost" where Patrick says "The love inside, you take it with you" I feel is so true. I know in readings, it's quite common where there's a strong emotional bond (e.g. partners, or parents) for me to feel totally overwhelmed by their grief (on the other side) and it's not uncommon for me to be in tears not able to adequately share the words, but totally share the feeling, with those sitting in front of me. So whilst I don't feel they "blame" us, they most certainly hold the emotion of love, caring and so on.

I don't generally feel they NEED our acceptance or love, but certainly there are times when they do. My own father-in-law desperately wanted my wife to forgive him for not treating her better (he wasn't bad to her, just didn't accept her and support her as he should have). In suicide cases, I know there is a desperate longing from those who have crossed over, to be forgiven by those they leave behind - like they didn't realise the problems they would leave behind.

You ask about the range of emotion they feel. If I can hand over to my guys on 'the other side' for a moment: "We're comfortable within ourselves (on the other side), but especially for those who have recently crossed, it's like they have so much homework to complete and they need to tick things off the list before they can become calm. Like going to sleep. If there's a whole lot on your mind, you can't rest properly until you've done those things, then you can relax and go to sleep.

If we have a lot to do, a lot to say, it's like when you want to tell a friend lots of things, and they want to hear about something else, but you can't talk about that yet because you HAVE to deal with these other things first". I hope those words give you some insight. I'll leave out a few things that were for my reader, personally, but she asks about anger. Where there is anger from those who have crossed over, it generally subsides after a while. I rarely find they hold the anger.

Acceptance is an important need that we can help them with. I think they can TRY to influence us, help us, guide us, but they can't MAKE us do anything, and I think they derive enormous satisfaction that we first of all listen, and secondly accept they're there. The 'asking for proof' that I suggest (on my website: afterlifephilg.com) only works for a while, because after a while, you KNOW the difference between your own thoughts and theirs, and it gets tiresome to them to keep proving things - and that shows them you don't accept what they share. So I think our greatest gift to them, that they want, long for, perhaps not need, but strongly desire, is an acceptance of them, their actions in the physical world whether they were good or bad, their presence in our lives now, and their willingness to help us where needed.

I think the negativity that you talk about will gradually float away. Like when you meditate, as you relax, no matter how much 'negative' feeling you have, if you relax long enough, you just give up on that feeling and let it go, so in that sense, I think they probably have those feelings to start with, but let them go. I hope this helps you, and my readers, have a greater understanding of how to accept and deal with loved ones who have crossed over.

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

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Where is my son? Is he where I placed the cross?

Tue, 14 Jul 2009 08:41:23 +1000

Dealing with Grief: June (name changed), from Birmingham, UK, writes: my son died in an accident recently. I'm not sure if it was an accident, or caused deliberately by someone, but regardless, I need to know where he is. I read an article of yours about a year ago talking about people who put crosses on the roadside of car accidents. And you said that's not where the 'soul' is. I need to know what you mean. Thanks June. Phil G shares his answers on spirit contact.

I have changed this lady's name at her request. However she has given me permission to share my answer with others so that might help them also. I can't recall the exact article or reply that you are referring to but I do talk about this in my book "Soul Matters - You Can Talk With The Ones You Miss". I totally understand your grief and despair. First of all you wanted to know if it was an accident or was it caused deliberately. I am not in "reading mode", but as I think of your words "an accident" it feels wrong. My next feeling is that it was an event that didn't turn out the way they (the ones who caused it) wanted, and it went considerably worse than what they expected. I say this because I am being shown surprise and despair at what they can see is about to happen.

So, whilst I feel it was on purpose, I don't feel there is a laying of blame against these people for the final result (your son's death). If I can just elaborate on this point for a moment because I commonly get questions from people who want to know about tragic circumstances. Whether there is blame either officially laid or unofficially laid at a person or group of people, the message that comes through time and time again to me is this: Whilst they may be angry or upset or showing me the blame, there is also a feeling that there is no point doing anything about this.

One gentleman in the New York particularly felt the need to retaliate, for the death of his son, who was coming home to celebrate his birthday when tragedy struck. The boy understands the tragic situation that occurred to him and the trauma it has caused his family, but he was at pains to explain to his father to "let it go". They don't want us to do dwell on what has happened or on retaliation. That statement isn't for them, it's for US. They understand the immense stress and heartache that causes us and holding onto it over a period of time will do nothing more than make you ill. At worst, you may end up doing something you regret. Always in this type of situation that feeling comes through, and it's coming through now in your particular case, June: that it doesn't matter and you need to let it go. For your sake. And yes, I understand you know who caused it all, or who would most likely have caused it. You are right. But you need to let it go for your own health, which I feel is deteriorating.

The scene of an accident (where sometimes people put a cross or flowers), is not where the spirit, or soul is now. I often have that feeling when someone is about to pass away. They leave and quite often before everyone else realises (including the medical people) that they have died. I was surprised by a TV series that I saw recently in Australia, where they showed a girl dying in a hospital bed. It's unusual for a TV show to get it right. I suspect that whoever wrote this scene deeply understands what really happens.

They wrote the scene that the person was leaving the soul and walking off to the white light, prior to everyone else realising she had died. I don't necessarily feel they go into the white light, at least straight away, but I do believe the soul frequently leaves their bodies before they have passed away. This show had the girl's soul leaving her body about two minutes before the alarm sounded. The doctors race in trying to revive her unsuccessfully. Whilst some would be distressed by that show and what I just shared, I think it's important to share it here, because it helps to answer June's question.

So, why do they leave their body before the very end? I believe maybe somewhere in the deep distant future science will catch up to this and prove it right. With all our knowledge and understanding of the human body there is so much that we don't understand particularly of the mind, of souls, and I personally believe our understanding of what happens at the final moments of death is grossly misunderstood by doctors and science. They are looking at what appears to be correct, but I don't believe it is. What is in the reason we're spared from the final moments of death, such as in an accident?

Those in the Afterlife, looking after us, don't want them to go through that final moment of pain and suffering, and they take them away from the situation. I believe that happened to most cause in the Twin Towers tragedy. So where is their soul? The problem I have with people who think they have to keep going back to the site of an accident is that I firmly believe that's not where they are. That may be where they were, physically, when the accident occurred. At the moment it happen their soul has left, protected, shielded. In many many cases, they will have already travelled over to where we are, where the most important person or persons in their life are, and visited them briefly. Many have shared their experiences with me of exactly this point. It may have happened to you.

It's happened to me. My mother was in hospital and she had been there for several weeks and was recuperating. We saw her earlier in the day. We were told by the doctors she was coming good. I'm in bed at night, and the phone rings. I knew the moment the phone rang she had passed away. Why would I think that? I had received many phone calls prior to this to say she is not well come over straight away. On none of those occasions did I feel she had died. I know of many who have a similar experience to share.

So, if they can be with someone perhaps miles or thousands of miles away at the time they've passed away or just after that it suggests to me that they're not still at the site. When I have done readings in a situation where there has been an accident like this, I often get a little image of people standing around in horror looking at what's happened and I can feel or see the souls leaving the body, stepping back, and looking on with wonder. Just like you see in the film "Ghost" where Patrick Swayze is standing, looking, not sure, not understanding what has just happened. So the next question is, as Jean writes, where is her son? I differ in my opinion from many others on this topic.

Everyone is entitled to their own belief. But I am very confident that what I am about to say is right. They don't go away. After a while, they don't need to be with you because you're getting on with your life and coping and they go off and do what they need to do. But they can come back any time you need them to. In the case of someone who has only recently passed away, I promise they are with you. They are beside you. They are watching you make the dinner, look at their things, their photo, holding things that used to belong to them. They're not trying to haunt you and they're not trying to pry. I know they're not interested in the things you do right or wrong, or wanting to watch you have a shower! That doesn't come into it.

They are around when you grieve and cry and mourn the loss of a loved one. They can see that, and you can feel it if you let them in. They share your tears. They can be with you when you sit or stand, putting their arm around your shoulder and comforting you. Have a look at my site on the spirit contact (afterlifephilg.com). You don't need to just take my word for it. You can prove this yourself. In particular, think about my book or CD or have a look at the YouTube video there. When you grieve, June and you wonder where your son is, think of him. Talk to him. Thank him for being with you. Just be aware of what you feel. Not always, but nearly always, you will feel them near you. It might be a feeling like someone touched you, or spoke to you, or a shiver up your spine. Don't dismiss it as being silly or being imagined. Embrace the feeling that your son is wish you.

If you want to cry, do so, but cry because you're pleased he's with you. Not that he is gone. By all means make a memorial for them, a nice gravesite, or a cross on the side of the road. A special place in your house, where it reminds you of him, honours him, makes you feel he is near. Do these things for you. Not for your son. If you made a particular spot where you feel comfortable that your son can visit you, then he will be there when you want him to be. But you don't have to keep going back to a particular spot to be with him. Your son is safe in the afterlife. The Afterlife is the energy that is all around you. And any time you need him to be, he will be with you, beside you, sharing as much as possible with you. Be aware of and embrace the feeling. Follow the advice on my web site on spirit contact (www.philg.net.au), and learn how to verify that he really is with you.

So for June, and all those mourning the loss or tragic passing of someone special, someone dear, trust they are wherever you need them to be, whenever you need them, and feel their presence, love and tears. Take care. Phil G

Afterlife Phil G shares his comforting words on dealing with grief at (www.philg.net.au)

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